Long Distance Relationship: Staying Faithful - HelpMy army bf and I have been together for a year and a half, we've known each other all through high school and I've been with him my first 2 years of college. I am an artist and studying design in the city and he lives in my hometown, so when he is home he is still an hour and a half away in another state, so it's always been long distance whether he is on army duty or not. I have no future plans or desire to leave the city and move back to my hometown, but he has plans to move in the future when he has the means.
He is my best friend, and basically my ONLY friend aside from my room mate who is never home. I've been in a creative slump because I go to art school but have no friends to relate to creatively. I grew up with 4 brothers and have always been able to make friends and relate to guys more than girls.
Recently I met this new guy that is also a designer and goes to a neighboring art school. I hong out with him and told him about my boyfriend. We have ALOT in common creatively and I feel like staying friends with him would benefit me because 1. we can make art together and 2. I'll finally have a friend to hang with and wont have to lay in my bed wishing my bf was here constantly.
This new guy is clearly interested in me, and we ended up kissing and made plans to hang out more. Its been killing me and I told my bf right away when he was able to call me during his 2 week duty, and I know it upset him. I'm still madly in love with my boyfriend and we're best friends; I'm DEFINITELY not ready or willing to drop my bf and go with this new guy. ideally I really wish the new guy and I can keep a friends-only basis, but it's hard because I'll forever know his attraction to me. The worst part about getting older is that girl-guy relationships are that it's almost impossible to mutually be "just friends".
I want to continue to hang out with this guy but I also don't want to lead him on and hurt my boyfriend. They are both two very different people; my boyfriend has amazing qualities that the other guy doesn't and vice versa. But they are not by any means comparable. What should I do?
helpmesolvemyproblems 18-21 3 Responses 0 Aug 3, 2012