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I Am a United States Army Girlfriend

How Do I Handle All Of This?

By: chogan0528
Written on January 31st, 2013
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • Alexiscnly

    As time goes on the separation may get easier for you...really it depends on the type of person you are. Omg my fiancé is there too!! :) just stay positive. Show him you can be army strong for him. I'm used to not seeing mine for a week or two because he worked 50 miles away and I go to school. (Sorry I ramble)

    Feb 2
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  • alwaysnforevertk

    I too am in the same position. My boyfriend left for Basic January 15th, I write entry's everyday and it makes me smile. Let him know in your letters that your thinking about him, you love him, and cant wait to see him when he returns. It's very hard to be away from the ones you love but remember he is thinking about you 10x more than your thinking about him. Think about positives, make cute things for when he gets home. Make a poem, think about what your going to say WHEN you see him. I cry every night but i MAKE myself cry or i lose my appetite and feel nauseous. Its ok to cry, it shows you care. While writing him letters bring something funny up, or say something cute... Its always fun doing cute things. Like for valentines day I am sending my hunni a Valentines Day card with a picture of me in it, a puzzle that I went online and personalized of me and him, those candy hearts that have cute words on them, and spraying a piece of paper with my perfume that will have a poem on it! Cute things make me smile, so just have FUN. He is not going anywhere its all on you hun!!!!
    Stay strong and keep telling him your proud of him and you love him!
    P.s. No negative things, it'll make him worry and you DONT want that, especially at Boot Camp <3

    Feb 1
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    • chogan0528

      Thanks for your advice it really helps I'm soo excited to get my first letter from him. How long did it take for you to get your first letter?? And those are really cute ideas for valentines day! But just a heads up if you send anything to him that isn't just the letter the drill sergeants will take it and punish him for it ive read it on the army websites so it might not be a good idea. But thank you for you advice again!

      Feb 1
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    • alwaysnforevertk

      Well i got 4 letters from him while he was in processing, but im still waiting for his first letter while in Basic Training. it's been a whole week so far and nothing, so I am also waiting. Remember they are going to be busy so it could take up to 2 weeks. Aaaaand that's why I am so glad my man will take one for the team he's going to LOVE it!

      Feb 1
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    • Alexiscnly

      I use to spray his work clothes with the perfume I wore on our first date. It drives them crazy when you do that. Lmao!!!

      Feb 2
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  • SweetImperfections

    I know it seems hard but it gets easier over time! The first few days are the hardest but reading stories of those who have been through it and things you can find off of Google by googling "army girlfriend" helps a lot! I'm not going to lie and say that it is ever "easy" per say but it does get easier. There are a lot of ups and downs. My boyfriend left for bct a little over 3 weeks ago and doesn't graduate until March 22nd and already I have had a few breakdowns but it's definitely worth it. Surround yourself with happiness and remember constantly that even though you miss him, he is somewhere thinking of you and wanting to be with you. Going to the mailbox and getting a letter from him, (no matter how short), will make your whole day! Sometimes you'll be in a good mood for days afterwards. Don't expect to get letters everyday. I typically only get one only once a week or so but don't take it personally. They are very busy and often have very little free time. Fort Jackson is supposed to be a pretty lax station for basic so your bf might be able to have his phone back at some point. Stay positive as much as possible, allow yourself to cry when needed, but at the end of the day realize that it is worth all the pain if the love is real. Today I had a breakdown myself and this quote gave me comfort. Maybe it'll help you too: "What I have with him is worth it. It is worth every lonely night, every tear I cry from missing him and the pain I feel from not having him close. It is worth it because he is my one and only. When I picture myself years from now, I see only him. No matter how painful distance can be, not having him in my life would be so much worst!" Hope this helps! Good luck! :)

    Feb 2
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    • chogan0528

      Thankyou so much! Everything you said really helped me out it nice getting support from those who are going through the same thing I can't really talk anout this to my friends ans family cause they don't fully understand. It means a lot to me and that quote is gone help me through a lot of this! :)

      Feb 1
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    • SweetImperfections

      No problem! Soon enough he'll be back in your arms :)

      Feb 2
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