My Love Story....

The story of me and my soldier did not actually start out as a love story. We had been friends since 10th grade (we are now 23 and 22). We were the best of friends, always there for each other through thick and thin, with things alway remaining plutonic. Kurtis enlisted into the army shortly after he graduated in 2005. We reamained in close contact, visiting each other as frequently as we could throughout this time. Things all changed though, when he came home from afghanistan for a month recently. The first day he was home we saw each other, and instantly fell in love. It was so strange, because neither of us had seen it before, yet we both realized it at the same time....we were in love. We both had been through shaky relationships in the past. When these went south, we always looked to each other for support. How stupid were we to not have realized that the one we were both looking for was right in front of us. We spent the rest of his R&R time together, right up to the tearful goodbye at the airport. It was a whirlwind of emotion, that I wasn't even able to process until after he left. He is currently back in Afghanistan until July. His deployment has been really hard on me. It is such an emotional rollercoaster to fall in love so quickly just to have him swept away for months. Anyways, everyones stories on this website have been so helpful to me. I just wanted to put my story out there. If anyone has any thoughts or ideas to help me deal with this deployment, please let me know. Thanks....Roses

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4 Responses Feb 23, 2009

I just wanted to say thank you for the comments. I am finding that as time is going by things are becoming a little bit easier. The first week was definitely the hardest. This website definitely is helpful. It's comforting to know that other people are going through the same things that I am going through.

I was like that too SPC, when he left and i didnt know when i was gonna see him next...and just didnt wanna do anything. I laid around the house, and had to drag myself to work and school. But once i got into the swing of things, and then started picking up other activities and things, i really did notice a difference.<br />
But i really think their are phases of missing him you gotta go through.<br />
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But anyway, welcome to the military girlfriend lifestyle! Me and my boyfriend started similar to how you two started...We had been friends since the 10th grade, we clicked as soon as we met but we were always dating other people and whatnot and then one day it just happened. two months later he joined the army. and a year later, here i am :) <br />
I think the biggest advice I can give you is not to feel like you HAVE to be strong. The ones we love are far away and facing dangerous situations, we are allowed to cry when travelin soldier comes on the radio, or stop and look when a white chevy pickup truck drives by (its the truck my boyfriend drives). Dont be afraid to come on here and rant and ask for support. And definitely dont look at deployement in its entire length. take it a step at a time, day by day, and it will go by faster than if you focus on the big picture.<br />
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good luck :) dont hesitate to message me if you need to talk

everyone says to stay busy, but i cannot bring myself to do anything, so im not very good in the advice area. just try to look at it one day at a time...that is what seems to help they are mini battles...because if i look at the big picture it makes it worse...good luck!

The best thing you can do. Is stay as busy as you can.x