New Army Girlfriend

I met my Joe years ago but we met again in the fall.  It wasn't a meeting to find someone special, just lunch on a beautiful day.  However, what we found was more than a friendly lunch.  The first thing he told me about was his upcoming deployment.  At the time it seemed so far away, but now that it's mere weeks away I'm really struggling.

Joe and I didn't start dating until about 3 months ago, so for both of us this is relatively new.  Is it too new to withstand a year of separation while he is facing danger most of us will never know?  

He's really gelling with his unit, they are building their "war family" while at the same time their "real" families are starting to feel that pull to the mission.  I am so proud of him and the focus he is showing, but the closer the date gets, the more scared I get.  I promised to be strong for him, to be soft when he needed it but strong too.  I'm trying my hardest, but I find at the worst times I am near tears with the knowledge that no longer is it an abstract concept that several months from now he'll's down to days.

Is this all too new for us to survive?  Is it silly to think that we could make it through the next year, or should we let the other go and hope that our hearts find their way back together for a second chance?

i miss my Joe more every single day--what will I do when he's half a world away?

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1 Response Feb 27, 2009

Can it work? Yes.<br />
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Will it work? That's up to the two of you!<br />
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None of us here will put up a fake front and tell you deployment is easy, it's full of little unexpected challenges as well as an overarching fear that never quite subsides. But if your love is strong you will be amazed at your ability to rise to the challenges deployment brings! <br />
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This community (and others like it) are the most amazing resource! Family and friends are just as essential to you now as ever, but there is only so much a person can understand when they've never actually experienced the situation. The women here are pretty amazing in the support, advice, and understanding they offer. We are all here for each other, to help pull each other through the rough spots, and to cheer each other on through the triumphs!<br />
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Good luck honey, and feel free to message me anytime. =)