Missing Him

My boyfriend left today again. He's in the army and we've been together for 3 months. Although a short amount of time..we've gotten close pretty quickly. Unlike many army girlfriends I feel blessed that he is not in combat at the moment. He's been in for almost 11 years and has done a couple of tours, hopefully won't be deploying for quite some time. So I'm guessing your wondering why I'm on here? Although he's not deployed he travels a majority of the time. He'll be gone for 2-3 weeks come back for a day or two and then leave again.

We've been going through a bit of a rough patch bc I'm starting to have a tough time dealing with him being gone so much. He also has past experiences with women who have bailed on him bc it was too hard to deal with. I'm starting to see him put walls up, and its like he's decided I'm going to bail.

I guess I just wanted to get on here because instead of talking to him about my feelings I think its best that I don't burden him with that info at this time. I'm looking for support from those who are also having a tough time or who've been through this.

I'm also an army brat, so i know what the life is like. I'm just trying to adjust and need all the help I can get :-)

redhed82 redhed82
26-30, F
4 Responses Mar 2, 2009

Oh Sweety I kjnow it is sooo hard having him away...2 days or 2 years it doesn't matter we want our men with us! But we are not always so lucky! I am so sorry to here about the rough patch although I am prtty sure we all go through them....but if you love him you guys will make it! Its just a bumb in the road hunny...thats what makes the ride fun cuz its unpredictable!<br />
So keep your chin up it will get better! Hang in there! I am here anytime just message me!

Oh Sweety I kjnow it is sooo hard having him away...2 days or 2 years it doesn't matter we want our men with us! But we are not always so lucky! I am so sorry to here about the rough patch although I am prtty sure we all go through them....but if you love him you guys will make it! Its just a bumb in the road hunny...thats what makes the ride fun cuz its unpredictable!<br />
So keep your chin up it will get better! Hang in there! I am here anytime just message me!

Love with military guys always seems to happen quick :) I think that the distance is defiantly making your relationship stronger and it'll show him how committed to him you are! & Then the time you do get to spend together we'll be the most amazing then in the whole wide world!! :) <br><br />
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I really hope that he can see how strong you are and how much you love him!!

three months is a lot of time to get to know someone. as for him putting that wall up, i think we ALL go through phases like that so don't take it personally. especially with his past, he cant help it. you just need to prove to him that you wont leave his side and you will be with him through it all. unless you are having doubts than you shoulder be with him at all. being with someone in the army is hard but it takes a strong girl to be with them and you defintely seem like a strong girl who can do it.<br />
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this website is great and a lot of people have helped me and i'm sure will help you. they all have a lot of knowledge of being a military girlfriend.fiance.wife.. this is a great place, you will get a lot of advice and comfort. no one puts each other down here. we are all here for each other.<br />
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stay strong sweetie. if you love him than don't even doubt about leaving his side.. were all here for you xoxo