Living without my love. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 8 months. In October of last year, he told me he wanted to join the Army. I supported him 100%. Though we had our problems, none having anything to do with the Army, we came out stronger as a couple. At the end of April he graduated AIT and got his first Duty station in Texas, 1,780 miles away from me. While he was graduating from Basic and AIT, I was finishing my senior year of high school and in May, graduating from high school. Not having him there was hard, I admit. But the week after Graduation, I flew out to see him. That was one of the BEST weekends I have ever had because finally after 6 months of not seeing him, I was with him for a whole weekend.
Then sadly, I had to leave and get back to my summer job at an Amusement Park, where I would from 9 in the morning to 10 at night, without my phone. That was rough but we made it through. Now since I am starting college and I wouldn’t see him until Christmas when he gets leave, we decide to both pitch in and have me fly out one more time this summer but instead of a weekend, I would spend a week with him. The last week before I left for college, I got to spend with him. Again it was AMAZING. It was like a test to see what it would be like to live together. We hung out on base, cooked dinner together and I met his friends. We even had a date night, something we hadn’t had in such a long time! But sadly, time went by to fast and we had to say goodbye, but not before he decide to propose! Yea he did, but I said no because I am kind of traditional where I want him to ask my dad for permission, so he said okay, he will ask when he comes home for leave. I really wanted to say yes, but if I am going to move 1,780 miles away, I need my family behind me, and that’s my way of knowing they are behind me 100%.
We have been talking about getting married for a while so it wasn’t a shock that he asked, and I told him beforehand that I needed him to ask my dad’s permission. So we said goodbye at the airport and I cried like a baby, but being the amazing guy he was, he wiped the tears away and told me that we will be together again soon. I got back to Ohio, had three days until move in day. I packed, bought stuff and then it was time to leave for college, four hours away from my family. College has been great so far too. I have met a lot of people, made some great friends, and love my classes and the campus.
But, ever since I left him after spending the most AMAZING week with him, I just can’t feel complete anymore. I feel like I am missing something all the time. It keeps getting worse and worse too. Everywhere I look there is a couple walking around campus, I went to the first football game of the season and kept thinking that he should be here, I went and saw a movie on campus and kept thinking I should be watching this with him. Everywhere I look and everything I do, I keeping thinking he should be here seeing this and doing this with me. It doesn’t matter what it is, I just think he should be here. After experiencing a week of living with him, it is what I want more than ever. We made an agreement that I would go to college for a year and then marry him and move out there. But even though I am having a great time here, all I want to do is be with him. I try to be strong but ever since that week, seeing what could be, it has gotten harder and harder to stay strong and I have cried a lot in only a couple of weeks of being away from him. Does this ever happen to anyone after spending a lot of time with their soldier and then having to leave them for a long time? Will it get easier?
Vianna1217 Vianna1217
18-21, F
2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

It does get easier! All I can say is follow your heart. If you find yourself wanting him with you all of the time and you aren't passionate about anything career/school wise yet, I would say go for it and be with him. Being with him and having his advice may even help you find your path in school-you are young! Stay strong

I hope so! And my heart is telling me that I need him but I promised my mom and myself that I would do one year of the "college experience" and I honestly do love it here and love what I am studying. I want to finish my year but just somedays are harder than others and you just have the days where you are missing him so much but no one in my group of friends here really understand that so it's hard to talk about with them. But I definitely will stay strong from him and we will get through it like everything else! Thank you so much for the advice! 😊

It is very hard for others to understand who have never even been in a long distance relationship.. Not to mention dated anyone in the military. Thank goodness for sites like this! :)

Right? Thank goodness! I love it! I love the support system you have on here, it incredible! 😊

OMG! I just cried when I read this!!
What a great story girl.. U guys love sooooo much each other!! Its not easy in any way.. but we have to stay strong for he, for u and for both of u guys!.. everything is gonna be OK! that love is so strong! :)

Awe don't cry! I know I need to stay strong but someways get hard. But we will make it through together and finally be together for good. But thank you! 😊