What Do I Do?

My boyfriend is currently on leave for a week (He is going to be deployed in May and his base is 7 hours away) i drove 7 hours there (to the base) and 7 hours back home to bring him to his moms house so he can see his family before his deployment. (Not to mention i waited 3 hours there for them to find him cause he knocked out and wasnt answering his phone). Anyway, since i brought him back all he wants to do when hes not with his family, is spend time with me (which im not complaining about) however, all i found myself doing this past weekend was crying on top of him and hes just had to sit there holding me. I know that he doesnt need that but my heart is breaking and i have no one but him to vent to. I am recently divorced and have had my heart broken but nothing compares to this emptiness i have now that we are getting ready for his deployment. Question is: can anyone give me advice for this week? things to focus on to not get upset, how to handle saying goodbye to him, things to talk about to get our minds off of the deployment, things i can do to show him ill be here? thanks a mil

armygf43086 armygf43086
22-25
4 Responses Mar 22, 2009

Okay here goes. <br />
Set an egg timer for ten mins. When it goes off suck it up and stop crying. <br />
You need to realize he needs a strong emotional support back home and that is you. You have to be stronger than you think you can be. <br />
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And for God's sake don't go on dates while he is away.

Okay here goes. <br />
Set an egg timer for ten mins. When it goes off suck it up and stop crying. <br />
You need to realize he needs a strong emotional support back home and that is you. You have to be stronger than you think you can be. <br />
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And for God's sake don't go on dates while he is away.

Do stuff, be active!! It's the same when he's away and you need to get yer mind off of it... you can't let yer self have too much down time to think! so go bowling, go on dates, hang out with and get to know his family, do silly stupid stuff (just don't get into trouble) lol me and my DB usually wind up walking around the store (Wal*Mart usually) or the Mall just people watching and killing time... and it's never good bye!! it's see you later! lol I usually just think of it as he's on extended vacation and I feel better :) but what ever works for you :)

I recommended this to another lady on here... <br />
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See him off and slip him a neat little card when he goes. Take a lock of your hair (small, of course) and tie it together with a silk ribbon. A photo of the two of you (wallet sized so he can take you with him) and scent with a super light spritz of yours (or his) favorite perfume of yours.<br />
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Its something that he can carry with him, something to think about and look at at those times when he would like nothing more than to be with you, and a piece of you (beside your heart) is always with him, and both of you know that.<br />
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Cherish the moments you have and do everything that you both love doing together so you can hold on to those memories until he comes back to make more. It's going to hurt and it's going to be painful, but that's part of datinga soldier. It comes with the territory.<br />
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Be there for him and let him know that you always will be thinking of him and you will love him and support him.<br />
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~ Meaghan