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Just Curious...

Was anyone planning to be dating, engaged to, or marrying a man in the military?

I get a lot of grief about it. People tell me I'm stupid for being with a man in the military. I've thought about it and I remember telling myself I would never be with a man in the military. But, I love him. I love him more than anything in the world. I need him more than I need my next breath. I for one am proud to be a military girlfriend. I'm proud to carry this thing that people concider a burdon. I'm proud to wear my baby's dog tags. I'm proud of him for being my hero. I'm proud to say HOOAH and laugh just because it reminds me of him.

No, I never thought I would be here. Yes, I'm happy I am. =)

Please comment, I want to know how many of you planned on it or didn't. =) Thanks. God bless you and our soldiers. =)

mrscutler37 mrscutler37 18-21, F 21 Responses Aug 4, 2009

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I never thought I would be with a man in the military either; I also remember telling myself I'd never be with a man in the military, and here I am engaged to one =] Ian and I had an instant connection and I have can't wait to be by his side again.<br />
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A lot of the people have given me grief about my baby leaving and changing and stuff like that. My parents are very supportive though.

To be honest...I never thought I would date someone that was in the military. But once we met and I knew what I was getting myself into, I couldn't help but love him. I couldn't ask for anything more. He is the love of my life.

I never expected to be with a military guy. In fact, I was one of those girls who probably would have claimed that the girls who were with them weren't very smart. But now I realize that there is a stereotyping on the guys and they aren't all the same. I also am realizing how much they have to go through and what people actually were talking about! I met my guy in the first grade and when we got in touch again a few years after we graduated from high school things just hit it off. I realized he was perfect for me. And this experience has really helped me to grow and learn a lot. I am learning how to be more supportive, encouraging, and compassionate. I think this is an experience that I wouldn't change for the world. And it's true, you can't change who you fall head over heels for! Tough times either pull a couple together and make them stronger, or it pulls them apart and they split up. It takes a unselfish person with a lot of strength to pull through this! If people make crude comments it is because they just don't understand and it is definitely hard to understand because this kind of tough situation is uncomprehensible when you haven't experienced it!

I personally love the military life style... I could care less what others say... MY family is just happy that this guy has a job! LOL plus the uniform lol

Thank you guys for all of your input. It means a lot to me that you took the time to talk to me and answer my questions. It also means a lot to have you guys here. I'm seventeen and while that may be young, I know I was ment for him and he was ment for me. It means a lot to have you guys here because no one else understands what I'm going through. You guys rock! You guys are my sheros. (Femal heros) God bless you and your men.

I definately didnt ever plan on this. None of it. I met my guy on-line and almost right away I knew I loved him. I didnt even think that was possible. When we met face to face my feelings were even more intense and I have a lot of respect for him doing what he does. I couldnt do it. LOL I tell him that and he says "well baby I couldnt be a single mom who works and goes to school......" Im not saying its not hard because it's a lot harder than I ever thought it would be. My friends think Im stupid for commiting myself to someone who is away for so long. The people who matter most know that this is what I want. I see relationships and marriages falling apart all around me and even though my man is across the world I know we have a bond far stronger than they ever had.

i never thought i would ever date a man in the military but he is an amazing guy and alot better than the guys who arent. when i first started talkin to mike my friends all told me not to get into anything serious with him because he is in the national guard and he's gunna be leaving for training soon. i didnt let that stop me. i love my soldier and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. im so proud to be an army girlfriend

Did i think i would end up with a military man... YES LOL. Everybody and i mean everyone in my family has been or is in the service. Father (who is still in the Army), mom, brothers, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Both my sister in the service and married to men in the military, so it is a way of life in my family. When i told them about my boyfriend they were all but too happy.<br />
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Not everyone is cut of for the lifestyle and a lot of females think they can hang/deal but they can't. We are so much stronger then them

Im so proud to be dating a man in service. I never planned on dating him or being with a man in the military. Im only 17 and people tell me im too young to date him or anything or to be in love with him. I dont agree with them because i do truly love him. As hard of an experience that it is to date a man in service its also a great one. Its not forever hes getting out on December 4th, 2010. I cant tell you how excited I am for that. But this truly is an incredible experience and im so proud of him and to be with him.

The truth is that my mom was an army brat and really wanted me to avoid army men b/c she saw the kids side of it but couldn't be happy for me now. I did tell my soldier before we started dating to leave me alone....the we both cried because we knew we couldn't do that! Love gets you through things you never thought possible and makes you a better person. I do not really consider myself different from other girls in their lives b/c if they were in love like i am...they would do whatever it takes to be with their man!! But had i planed on it...NO

I always promised myself I would never be with a man that was in the military. I didn't want the burden of constantly having to worry about the safety of the man I love. I swore to myself I would never let myself get close enough to someone in the military to fall in love with them. However, I didn't bet on falling in love with someone and then having them join the military. My boyfriend is in AIT right now. When we first started dating, I would have never imagined him joining. Now, 8 years into our relationship, he joined the National Guard. So here I am. It all just depends on who you love and how much you are willing to sacrifice to make that love work. I know I am now more proud of him than I ever thought I could be and Im proud to be a military gf!

The few girls that I knew that were military gf's made me think I would never want this lifestyle bc I would watch them cry and worry soooo much. In fact I didnt want a boyfriend at all when I met my soldier, but I fell head over heels for him on our first date!!! Now I wouldn't change it for the world. I am so proud of him and to be his girlfriend. I am so proud to wear his dog tags. I get the same thing from my friends as well. Why would I want to do this? Luckily my family is being very supportive of our relationship and I'm moving back in with my parents while he is deployed! I could NEVER go back to the way my life was before I was an army girlfriend. All the people that criticize us and dont understand are just down right ignorant!!!!

The few girls that I knew that were military gf's made me think I would never want this lifestyle bc I would watch them cry and worry soooo much. In fact I didnt want a boyfriend at all when I met my soldier, but I fell head over heels for him on our first date!!! Now I wouldn't change it for the world. I am so proud of him and to be his girlfriend. I am so proud to wear his dog tags. I get the same thing from my friends as well. Why would I want to do this? Luckily my family is being very supportive of our relationship and I'm moving back in with my parents while he is deployed! I could NEVER go back to the way my life was before I was an army girlfriend. All the people that criticize us and dont understand are just down right ignorant!!!!

i also didnt plan this i thought i could never handle this after my father being in the army and seeing my mom go through what she did but now i am in love and i wouldnt want this any other way than with him. hes my other half and the love of my life. this is a hard relationship but we can do this but its way hard! but this will make us stronger. i get it all the time why are you doing this its not healthy for you and blah i got in a fight at work with some guy who didnt support the army and yelled at him and told him to go stand in front of my boyfriend and my dad so they could come home to me! but no one understand us but the girls on here! thanks foreverthing ladies

girl, good for you!!! you can't help who you love. I have been with my man for 5 years, ever since we were 16 (now 21), and I just married my soldier about a month ago on his R&R. it was the happiest day of my life, and the best 2 weeks ever!!! Well, he's back in iraq now for another 5 months. You can make it!!!! stay strong!! if you ever need to talk, feel free to message me!!

I was actually one like you that never wanted to date someone in the military. I was always afraid that it would be too hard. But then Zach came along and swept me off my feet and here I am, wearing yellow ribbons and sending care packages lol Best part is, I wouldn't trade this for the world, no matter how much of a 'burden' people think it may be

i never thought about it when i met him, it didnt matter to me what he did in life i just loved him! on the other hand, he always said his number one rule in life was that he would NEVER date a military girl, good thing i wasnt one! well.....then i joined and it didnt go over so well he 100% didnt support my decision or me and he broke up with me. a few months went by and he wanted to be with me again, he apologized for acting like such an ***! and realized it doesnt matter what i do he loves me and no matter what he wants to be with me, its the toughest relationship ever cuz he deployed two weeks before i came home from 7 months of training and i should be deploying within the next six months but if you love someone it doest matter what the circumstances are because you can make it work through anything! good luck girl and keep your head up!

I don't think anyone could plan on being with someone in the military, or even a doctor or a dentist you know? It just happens.. you can't help who you love and it just happens all of us fell in love with our soldiers. Keep staying strong and positive just how you are girl :)

I actually have been getting the same thing.I am new to the fiancee side of this.I've always been his supportive best friend and girlfriend.I not only get slack for the the fact that he's in the military but I get alot of slack for being a interracial couple.I get it alot but at the end of the day its worth it to be able to wear his dog tags and Hold his hand.I've been told im stupid because what if he dies. I tell them that I would rather marry my best friend than not at all.

I can't believe people would tell you that. Love is love and you are being supportive for your man. <br />
See, i've been with brian for almost 3 years now and he just went to basic July 15th. His whole family has basically been in the military but he wasn't going to go because he loved me. Then the economy got bad and he needed school money and in the end, it will be great for us.<br />
We are getting married on his family day of graduation. I am so happy to be with him. He completes me and I am going insane without him here with me.<br />
Don't listen to anybody else. If you love him, then stick by his side no matter what!

Okay, so i am new to the whole gf side of this.. but not to the military at all. When i graduated H.S. pretty much about 75 percent of my really good friends and class mates went into some kind of service. I kept in contact with most of them while they were over seas and came home... I even watched one of my best friends marry a Marine. Yeah, never thought I'd be in these shoes. <br />
When some of my military friends found out i was dating someone in the Army they said, oh it's never going to work.. you can't do this... it's not healthy! But I feel the same way you do! I want nothing more than to be with him. He makes me happier than I have been in years, and If that how you feel..? that is all that should matter! Good luck to you! <br />
Katie