He's Changing, And I Don't Know What To Do.

In two days, I will have been with my boyfriend, who is also my ex-fiance, for a year.  I don't know where I should start my story, so I guess I'll take it from the beginning..

When I was 17 I met my boyfriend John, who was 21. A month later, and ten days after I turned 18 he asked me to be his girlfriend.  The first month or so we were together was extremely laid back.  We saw each other once, maybe twice a week.  Then we had a talk and decided that we were both looking for sometihng more serious than casual.  We started seeing each other almost every day. Within a couple weeks, we started seeing each other every day.  I basically moved in with him after a month.  He told me he was going to join the army at the beginning of May.  I wasn't too ecstatic and I had grown up in an anti-military joining family.  I supported him in every way I could though.  Upon joining he told me that he would ship out to Basic the next September.  If he had left at the end of May though, he would've received another $10,000. He gave that up because he wanted to spend the summer with me and let our relationship

hoseas hoseas
18-21, F
3 Responses Feb 15, 2010

yes do that thing that is good that your heart tells you to do...but be very aware of both possible outcomes:) that way your prepared for what ever might happen. what ever you do dont play the blind kitten to your heart, you need yourself too:) Good luck:D

This is hard one! Do what you think is right. He probably will come around if you both work at it! You bring out the best in him I am sure! He appreciates everything you do, whether he shows it or not. Just keep your spirits up and do what your heart desires. <br />

sorry.. For some reason my whole story got cut off..<br />
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Well he wanted to let our relationship grow stronger. <br />
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In september, the night before he shipped off to Basic, he asked me to marry him. I said Yes! And then he was gone. Two days later, I started a new life as a freshman in college. <br />
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We sent eachother letters for three months and I flew across the country to see him graduate from Basic. He was so different. He didn't smile, or talk much. He wouldn't hold my hand or hug me or kiss me. Before he left, we were super touchy and were always next to eachother and kissing eachother's cheeks. I was upset, but it was enough to see him.<br />
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He got to come home two weeks later for Christmas Exodus. At first, he was the same as he had been at his graduation. And he was really uncomfortable and jumpy when we would hold hands in public. But as the weeks progressed, he became more and more like his old self, and by the time he had to leave, he was his old self again. <br />
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The first night back at AIT, he called me crying because he was cold and felt alone with me cuddling up next to him. He stayed like that for a week. Then a week later, having a fiance was too stressful so he broke up with me completely. A week after we broke up, he begged me to forgive him and go out and just be his girlfriend again. I agreed because I loved him and hadn't wanted to break up in the first place.<br />
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We were fine up until a couple days ago.. A week ago he missed my birthday. And the past 4 or 5 days, his unit has been in trouble and haven't been allowed to talk on their phones that much.<br />
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We finally got a chance to talk this morning and he was completely.. Unattached. He seemed to be the same as he was right after Basic, only worse. When he says I love you, it sounds so.. fake. He told me he is indifferent to everything, and doesn't know if he'll ever be able to show his emotions at all ever again.<br />
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I don't know what to do. I don't know if he is going through a phase and I need to support him and stay here waiting, or if what he is telling me is true and I need to get out now before he comes homes and proves it and I just have my heart broken ten fold.<br />
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He doesn't care if we break up or stay together by his own admission.