Fiance` Is Leaving For Basic Tomorrow.

My name is Desiree`.  My fiance`, Ryan, and I have been together for nearly 3 years now and we have a beautiful 1 year old son together in addition to my older three children that he loves as his own.  Tomorrow he is leaving for Basic and AIT at Fort Leonardwood.  He will be Active Duty for 3 years after that.  I'm trying to hold myself together, but I have no idea what to expect.  We have never been apart before.  He met me at a bad time in my life and became my support and my best friend when no one else wanted to.  I can't imagine life without him and I'm terrified. 


He will only be gone for 14 weeks, but what comes after that?  I know he will be stationed and I understand that we cannot go with him.  I don't want to miss out on 3 years with him.  And more importantly, I don't want him to miss 3 years with our babies.  They won't be babies anymore when this is over and I feel that it would be a terrible thing for him to miss out on. 


I have so much going through my head right now that I don't even know what elsse to say.  Any advice, experiences, and encouragement would be greatly appreciated.  I'd love to hear all of your stories.  I'm so glad I'm not alone and that we can all be here for each other.

PrettieDezzie PrettieDezzie
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 16, 2010

awh... we are all here for ya! being away from our soldiers is not easy, but through letters, phone calls, and every visit possible you will get through it. just remember, i know 3 years sounds like a long time, but this separation is sooo temporary, and i'm sure you guys will visit each other as much as possible in between. -and know that you are his strength, just as much as he is yours. keep your head up sweetie. <br />
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message me if you need to talk...<br />
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hey girl message me anytime if you need anything or have any questions. my soldier went through his ait trainting at ft leonard wood as well. and is currently deployed.. i'd be happy to talk!