Deployment Sucks

So I've been with my boyfriend for four years now, we started dating our freshman year in highschool and he joined the army during my junior year. I've never been with anyone but him,and I've never had to deal with anything like this before. He is over in Iraq right now and wont be home until October. I talk to him every chance I get, but I'm just a big ball of stress and worry. I try and do as much as I can for him, and I dont really tell him I'm as worried as I really am because he needs to stay as focused as he can on what he needs to be doing.  I try to be strong for him, because I know he is going through alot, but he knows me better than that lol and told me to find people I can talk to until he gets home. So here I am, can anyone help me figure out how to cope?

JoesLonelyGirl JoesLonelyGirl
18-21, F
9 Responses Feb 22, 2010

Your very right, I try my best to keep myself busy. And I pray for them all every night, Good luck with your deployment and thanks for the kind words and advice.

Hey girl,<br />
My boyfriend deployed to Afghanistan 2 months ago. There are good days and bad days...and sometimes the bad days seem unbearable without him here, but I promise there will be good days without him here. The first month is really tough, but as a day goes by you are a day closer to seeing him. But I promise you girl it gets better...the day for him to come home WILL come. Just make sure you have a daily routine that keeps your mind off being sad...even though we all know that is nearly impossible to do! Stay strong, and enjoy this time learning to be independent!!!

:) thanks, gahh I cant wait to get to the halfway point. It feels like forever and he isnt even close to being done. Its especially hard because before I met him, I told myself I would never be with anyone in the military haha well we know how that turned out. He joined after we started dating, and there was no way I was going to leave him.

Awww... girl, that is hard, my man's been in Iraq for just about 6 months and I have another 6 more to go!! =] Being at the halfway point is really comforting actually. My boyfriend is stationed in WA when he isn't in Iraq but he just got a letter stating that he will be relocated. Only God knows where that could be uhhh jeesh the army is startin to really frustrate me haha. Things will get better and that is really good to hear that he will be coming to WA and closer to you

No, he wants to reenlist as soon as he gets back in October, and is getting his base transferred from NY to Washington so that we can work on starting a family.

So he's getting transfered from iraq to washington soon?

Thank you both for your support, its so hard! He has been gone since October, and it hasn't gotten any easier. I think the part that makes it harder, is that he was stationed in NY and I live in Oregon, so I have seen him August and I didn't get to see him off, some other girl did. But he is getting transferred to Washington. Thank you guys so much!

Hey! I'm with you my bf left on vday for a deployment to iraq. I was a mess for the first two days and just sat and cried and cried. Im joining a family readiness group and hope that will help. Its a group of people with family that are currently deployed and so you can talk to other people in simila situations. This is the hardest thing ive ever done but i know in the end it will be totally worth it. You just gotta take it day by day and do lil things to get back on track. I hadnt done laundry or dishes for like a week so yesterday I finally forced myself to do one of the things. Its hard but the faster you realize you are going to be ok and theres always people to talk to the easier it will be to get on track. Talking to other people in the same boat has helped a lot that way i dont have to worry my bf when i talk to him. Hopefully you will get back into a somewhat routine while hes gone soon and be able to concentrate on staying positive for him good luck and im always here if you wanna talk :)

my husband just left for deployment and i'm in the same boat as you, i have no idea how to figure out how to cope! he's only been gone for a week and a half and I've just spend my time being sad and upset. I've tried to stay busy but right now I don't even have the energy to stay busy. Maybe some day I will get back into the swing of things and a routine. But I wish you the best of luck, and feel free to talk to me or message me anytime! take care.