He Wants To But I Dont....

my boyfriend and I have been together for a few months...and we discussed the fact that he wants to join the army,but i dont want him to. He says he wont do anything if it'll hurt me...but I don't want him to give up his dream.and I feel like thats a selfish thing of me to make him give it up. HELP!!!

futurearmygirlfriend futurearmygirlfriend
13-15, F
3 Responses Feb 24, 2010

thank you guys so much. and I know its not easy and as i type this im talking to him about it. once again thank u

I agree. This is something that you two really do need to talk about. And, you also need to think if this is the type of life you want for yourself. As jello said, it isn't always easy. But we do find it more than worth it! Our guys are away for LONG periods of time and we see them very little. However, we are enormously proud of them! It's something you two need to discuss and something to think about.

This is a really big topic that you two really need to talk about together. Tell him that you don't want to be responible for making up his mind for him and if he feels that this is what he has to do then he has to do it for HIM. But you also have to really ask yourself if he is the one for you and if you really want to go through this with him. If you do this I'm not going to lie it is hard and you will miss him, but it will be worth it just to see him. I'm not trying to scare you just warn you, but if he decides that this is what he really wants and you chose to go through this with him this is a great site and the ladys here are amazing you really learn alot from them. Talk to him and tell him how you feel just let him know that your there for him no matter what. I hope this helps you.