Im Soo Siick Of People

IM SICK AN TRIED OF PEOPLE TRYING TO PUT THERE 2 CENTS INTO MY FIANCE AN OUR RELATIONSHIP.. HOW HES IN THE ARMY  HOW HE WILL CHEAT BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH IM GOING TO DECK THE NEXT PERSON IN THE FACE I SWEAR I WILL. IVE BEEN HOLDING IT BACK FOR LMST 3 MONTHS NOW. UGH NOT ALL MEN CHEAT.. THERE GIRLS/MEN MAY CHEAT WITH THE DAMN NANNY OR POSTMAN.. THERES NO DIFFERNECE.. MY EX WAS A MARINE AN YEA HE CHEATED IT TAKES A LOT TO BE ABLE TO TRUST SOMEONE PERIOD BUT IF YOU BEILIVE IN YOUR GUY THAN THATS ALL THAT MATTERS.. BUT FCK IM SICK OF PPL TRYING TO TELL US THAT WE SHOULDNT GET MARRIED SO FAST AN ALL THAT CRAP OMG IM VENTING IM PISSST OFFFF I JUST CAN TAKE PPL TALKING CRAP ANYMORE WITH OUT ME TELLING THEM OFF NOW OR DECKING THEM.. IT JUS SUCKS CUZ HE DOESNT EVEN KNW WHAT PPL ARE TELLING ME AN HOW I FEEL LIKE IT TOTALLY SUCKS I WISH HE COULD SEE AN BACK US UP.   PPL JUST HAVE SO MUCH TO SAY AN LOVE TO BUTT INTO SOMETIHNG THAT DOESNT EFFECT THEM. PRRIICCKS

evansgrl21 evansgrl21
18-21, F
4 Responses Feb 26, 2010

I have still yet to see the correlation between the military and cheating...if a man is going to cheat he going to cheat military or no military. My friend's boyfriend cheated on her...so does that mean all college guys cheat? My brother's girlfriend cheated...does that mean all hairstylists cheat? One, some, a few...that does not mean ALL. Trust is a crucial part of any relationship ESPECIALLY a military one. If you trust your soldier...that is ALL that matters. No one's opinion besides your soldier and yours matter. I wish I could say the budding in stops...I have been married almost 4 months and it hasn't yet. My fellow Army wife has been married 9 years and she still gets this crap. <br />
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ANNOYING QUESTIONS:<br />
Do you miss him? (are they serious when they ask?)<br />
How do you go without sex? <br />
Don't you worry he won't love you anymore?<br />
Are you afraid he'll cheat? cause I heard all soldiers cheat on their wives...(do they realize they sound like idiots?)<br />
How do you do it? I could never...(we know you Whine-y b****!)<br />
Do you really wanna bring a child into this lifestlye? <br />
Does he get to come home for Easter?<br />
Do you ever worry you made a mistake marryinga soldier and so young too?<br />
When are you gonna see him again? <br />
Do you worry alot?<br />
THERE ARE LOTS MORE!!!

i hear ya... ignore the discouragement. its unfortunate, but there will always be people who judge and love to give their negative opinions on things, but i think they do that because they don't understand what its like to be in OUR shoes. <br />
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i myself am [God willingly] getting married to my soldier in Georgia next month right after his graduation and we've only known each other for a short while, and yes i agree, its crazy, but we both know this is what we want and we can't live without each other. so again, i am trusting in God and my heart on this one. <br />
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Your heart knows what's best and as long as you two are happy, that's all that counts! stay strong sweetie!

I know how much it sucks and how irritating it is... and i wish i could tell you it would stop, but i dont think it ever will. My husbands been in the Army for almost 2 years... and we hear it all the time. He has soldiers telling him ill cheat on him, cause all Army Wives Cheat and then I get told he will cheat cause he is in the Army. Its so annoying and dumb.. but really we just have to let it go as best we can. I used to have people ask me if we'd gotten a divorce cause no one saw us together for so long- no matter i had a sticker on my car saying "Proud Army Wife" and i wear my wedding ring everywhere.. people sometimes are really just dumb- dont fully think about what they are saying. Like asking a pregnant military wife if her husband will be able to come home from iraq/afghanistan/ect.. for the birth. Or will he get to come home for Christmas, Thanksgiving... or asking the 2 most RUDE INAPROPRIATE questions.. "do you ever worry he'll get killed?" and "do you think he has/will kill anyone?" ... these are things no one really wants to think about-- no army wife/gf/fiance/family/friend ect ... should ask a soldier if he has killed someone- do you actually think they want to talk about it?? This life we've all chosen is hard, and people will ALWAYS ask us rude questions, say negative things, and stick their noses where they dont belong... but the truth is, this is the best thing to happen to my marriage.. we had to learn quickly that sex isnt everything, it taught us how to comminicate verbally, how to be independant, taught us to fully trust eachother 100%.. many couples take years to learn these lessons, if they ever do... I know it sucks, but keep your head up... we're the lucky ones- we get to fall in love over and over again each time they come home to us after being gone...

hey! hope you dont mind me commenting on this. I just have to say that I can totally understand where you are coming from. My boyfriend is in the army and he just deployed to Iraq this month. I had someone telling me that he is going to cheat...that all army men cheat because they know they can get away with it. Granted, I have met married military men who hit on me and tried buying me things...but not all are like that! Like you said, you just have to believe in your man. you are the one who truly knows him. Its hard to trust ppl, especially when you have gone through other messed up relationships, but I know I can trust my soldier. I know in my heart and soul that he is over there doing his job and only that. Dont let these ppl get you down, girl! Stay focused on your man and good luck!