Army Girlfriend

Like  a lot of other people, I had never had any experience with the military before and had never seen myself dating someone who was going to join.

I suppose I should start at the beginning.  I met my boyfriend last year (freshman year of highschool) and I know this sounds so cliche but as soon as I met him I knew I wanted him in my life.  He was a junior and he did not have mutual feelings for me.  However, after a couple of hard months between us he finally asked me out March 20, 2009.  Probably about one of the best days of my life.  Now, I know I'm young and many might think that I don't know what love is yet or why would I commit myself to such a relationship when I'm only 16, but right now, as of what I know about love, this is love to me.  I support him being in the army because that is what he wants to do and enjoys doing it.  He joined shortly after his birthday which is October 18th.  He leaves for basic in June a couple days after school ends.  I'm pretty much dreading being away from him because he's pretty much my best friend.

One thing that has been bothering me a lot is that none of my friends understand what I'm going through or even care.  Two of my girl friends who are in my grade and who are also dating seniors keep saying that they know how I'm feeling because their boyfriends are going off to college next year.  And as most of you can imagine, I'd like to slap them sometimes, because this is not even close to the same thing.

Anyway, I was just wondering if any of you had advice for anything or even just wanted to talk.  It'd be nice to have a friend who understood!

emmilyy2012 emmilyy2012
18-21, F
4 Responses Feb 26, 2010

i'm sixteen too, and my soldier is 18. we started dating when i was a sophomore and he was a senior. everything you pretty much said is exactly how i feel about my boyfriend. i have never had a military experience before, and i'm so excepting of his choice to join the army. i love my boyfriend too and i know exactly what you're going through, i'm dreading school, cause i already know everyone will be talking to me about him and asking so many questions, and they will be so ignorant it will just drive me crazy. pretty much everything you said is exactly what is going on with me lol. be strong!

I completely understand where you are coming from girly. :D My boyfriend and I started dating our sophmore year of high school, so I was there through the WHOLE process! Which was for sure a hard one. We've been together for almost three years now. Feel free to message me anytime! I like making friends and I'll answer any questions you have.

thanks so much for commenting and your advice :) I've been trying to do spend as much time as I can with him and he does also. Oh, and my two friends i had mentioned before, they were talking to me in class the other day about how their boyfriends will completely not acknowlege them at all in the halls sometimes. I was in complete shock! It seemed so stupid to me...why would you waste precious time...and then as my one guy friend pointed out...they have as much time as they want. lol ah well. sometimes i wonder if what they do now would annoy me as much if i wasn't dating someone who is enlisted

Same advice just spend as much time with him as possible!! cherish your time spent together and don't fight over silly things! your friends are going to annoy you a lot because you can't talk to your soldier when he is in basic but they could talk to their guys! stay strong girlie :)