Scared

My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months. He left one week ago for basics and I am scared out of mind. He is 19 and I'm 17. We are very much in love but I fear that he might not after this long four months. And yes I am aware of how extremely immature that is and I know he loves me so idk why I feel that. There's just so many crazy emotions running through me.
I got the postcard they send out but it has no return address. How do I know if he's aware of that or not? What if he's expecting a letter from me? I just want to make sure he knows that I'm here for him and I feel like if I jeep in contact with him he won't forget me (yes again a bit immature again). I just need that first letter or call I think. Please help me.
He is in Fort Jackson.
knice11 knice11
18-21, F
13 Responses Mar 1, 2010

My boyfriend has been at Ft Jackson for about a month now as well. It's so hard not knowing when your getting a letter or a phone call so I totally understand how ya feel girl! Just hang in there! We will all get through this! :)

Mine's at fort jackson too. :) and don't worry about it. I know this sounds so cheesy, but if its meant to be, both of you will figure out a way to make it work through anything. :)

Hey girl! I agree with all these ladies I felt the same way that you did, but after I got that first letter I felt much better. Again they are right and I know that it doesn't seem like it, but it gets easier. I have to say that the first week was the hardest. And my guy is in Fort Jackson too. (Hes been there for a little over 3 weeks) If you ever wanta talk you can message me. But keep comming here I love this site it just makes me feel better to know that im not alone in this.

he never told me really =( something for computer tech or something like that. <br />
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thanks *missesheryang* i appreciate it greatly. i hope his feelings do grow...mine have in this past week

he never told me really =( something for computer tech or something like that. <br />
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thanks *missesheryang* i appreciate it greatly. i hope his feelings do grow...mine have in this past week

Heyyy me and my guy are the same age too and I went through this in August through November and I completely understand those feelings. He will not forget you in these coming months. And in all honestly the thought of you is probably whats pushing him harder.If anything my dear his love for you will grow stronger when he sees your waiting it all out.<br />
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If you need anything let me know<br />
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well that's a plus. I know when I got my call I wasn't expecting it, I was sitting in my room doing homework when my phone rang and when I heard his voice it took me a couple to realize that I wasn't dreaming and that he was on the other line. haha.<br />
It would be cool and good if they were together because then we'd have something else in common and know what's going on and keep each other updated.<br />
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What's he going for? like position? My guy is going for EOD.

oh girl i got a call too...but you know im just sitting here like omg when is it coming or is coming at all! maybe they are together thatd be too funny =) im just scared and theres so many emotions lol<br />
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and i am here for you also.. if u need anything at all let me know

Hey girl. My boyfriend just left for Fort Jackson about a week ago also!! Maybe they're together. And just like you I'm still in high school and he is also 19. I know how hard this is and what you're feeling because I'm going through the same thing. I know what you mean when you think you're being immature because I feel like that most of the time too. I'm also worried that he'll forget about me and I told him that before he left and he reassured me that he could never forget me and was worried that I'd be the one who forgot him. & I know this is hard to do but don't stress because you'll hear from him soon! I can't wait to get a letter or a phone call. I keep my phone by my side all the time and check the mail box even more than once a day even though it only comes once! haha. But I did get a quick call from my soldier about 5 days ago and he said that I should be receiving a letter in the next week or so, so keep your hopes up! I'm sure that your first letter will be coming this next week or so also!<br />
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If you need to talk I'm here for you.<br />
-Miranda.

i felt the same way. we been together over two years now and he is also at fort jackson and will actually have been there a month tomorrow. i felt like these five months away from him, he was going to fall in love with somebody. or just forget bout me etc.... but the truth is this will actually make your relationship stronger then ever. and i didnt get his mailing address til like maybe 2 1/2 weeks into basic. dont worry im sure he knows that it doesnt have address. start writing letters now so when you get his address you can send them all at once. message me if need to talk

oh wow you guys have brought me to tears lol =) it is so great to know that this is normal and you have been through the same thing! thank you so much.

Sweetie, what you're feeling is completely normal. When my hubby (fiance at the time) first left I had the same worries. It passes and as intrue as it may sound now, it does get easier. I've been married 4 months now. (Sometimes I can't believe its been 4 months.) You have to just take it one day at a time. So, you're boyfriend is probably in reception so it'll be a little bit before you get his address cause he doesn't even know it yet. Have faith. You can do this! I am here if you ever need to talk...

Hey girly! It is COMPLETELY normal to feel the way you are feeling. So don't worry. :] I'm sure he knows that the post card has no return address. You probably won't get the return address until his 2nd or 3rd letter. So try not and worry about that. When my boyfriend went to basic I had all the same worries you have. However, everything worked out FINE! :D Feel free to message me anytime!!! I'm here to help you and support you!