I Am a Victim of Domestic Violence
What Rights Does The Abusive Father Of My Unborn Baby Have?
By:
ImElegantWaste
Written on August 28th, 2012
OK ill try and make a long story short. I'm about 3 months pregnant. My financial and relationship situation with the father are beyond messed up. i have not always made the best decisions and one of those regrettable situations is staying with my boyfriend for as long as i have. The relationship is extremely mentally, emotionally, physically abusive. I'm in the the process of getting away from him and have a lot of hope for this course of action.
When I found out i was pregnant my heart dropped. I have had 3 abortions in the past and each one has taken a piece of me. Either i was convinced that it was the right thing to do, or terrified at the thought of being so connected to a man who made me afraid to come home for 3 years. This time I feel so strongly that i cant go through that again that i have decided to put the child up for adoption. An amazing couple who have been friends of me and my mother for as long as I can remember, cannot conceive and they would consider it an honer to raise the child. I cant think of better fitting parents for any kid!
When i brought this up to the father. (as a mere suggestion for another option) he became irate,and insulting. He told me the there was no way he would let anyone else raise his kid and that if I "was stupid enough to have it" that he would take it away and "raise it to hate you as much as i do". He said it would be forcing him to b a father before he is ready.
So option A, continue to be bullied and abused and have yet another soul to keep me up at night or B, have a beautiful baby give it to a loving home that desperately craves it and tell the father to just deal with it and stay the hell away from me. I'm defiantly going with B.
The only thing I'm concerned about is how much legal rights does the father have in California?
(PS i know this should be in the questions... :p)
When I found out i was pregnant my heart dropped. I have had 3 abortions in the past and each one has taken a piece of me. Either i was convinced that it was the right thing to do, or terrified at the thought of being so connected to a man who made me afraid to come home for 3 years. This time I feel so strongly that i cant go through that again that i have decided to put the child up for adoption. An amazing couple who have been friends of me and my mother for as long as I can remember, cannot conceive and they would consider it an honer to raise the child. I cant think of better fitting parents for any kid!
When i brought this up to the father. (as a mere suggestion for another option) he became irate,and insulting. He told me the there was no way he would let anyone else raise his kid and that if I "was stupid enough to have it" that he would take it away and "raise it to hate you as much as i do". He said it would be forcing him to b a father before he is ready.
So option A, continue to be bullied and abused and have yet another soul to keep me up at night or B, have a beautiful baby give it to a loving home that desperately craves it and tell the father to just deal with it and stay the hell away from me. I'm defiantly going with B.
The only thing I'm concerned about is how much legal rights does the father have in California?
(PS i know this should be in the questions... :p)
By:
ImElegantWaste
Age:
26-30
