Need Help Asap

I myself have been involved in an abusive relationship. I was very young (in high school) and thankfully able to finally get away. So this problem is not mine personally, though it is affecting me in a very personal way.

My best friend of 20 years is currently in an abusive relationship. Though she has never told me this, not only are the signs there (she is not allowed to call, visit, friends or family, she cant go anywhere alone, etc)...but I have also asked a few local police officers that are friends about this guy and they all said basically "he is mentally ill, get her out NOW".

So..my question is this. How do I approach her with this without alienating her? She is aware that this man was fired as a law enforcement officer for aggravated assault against a pregnant girlfriend. So she knows a little about his past. What do I do?
suburbanlegend suburbanlegend
31-35
1 Response Dec 1, 2012

Be open and honest with her. Give her resources. (A local hotline for domestic violence, women's shelters, etc.) Let her know you are always there for her. Help her come up with a safety plan. Otherwise, she needs to come to her own conclusions about if she wants to leave. It's easy to look from the outside and say "GET OUT NOW!" but she needs to realize she's in an unhealthy relationship. So sorry you're going through this.