Looking For DirectionI've been married to my husband for 7 years....together for 10. I have a beautiful 10 year old stepson and three fantastic daughters (4,5, and 7). I am a working professional and always counted on my husband for much of our domestic needs. He is a great father and alwas puts our needs first. However he has been physically abusive for nearly 10 years....it's ranges from a quick smack to being tackled and having the life beat out of me...this had occured 1-2 times in a year...nothing for a few years...then got extremely bad(child protective service involved) the end of last year to the point we separated.
Even though we were living in two different household we still see each other almost every day and stay at each others places. We still have a had a few minor altercations, but the abuse appears to have stopped??? And he appears to be trying, but how do i know it ever really goes away?
To complicate things...i recently found out i was pregnant. In my mind i've been fighting myself between staying and divorce and now this. I know i shouldnt just jump back in because nothing has been resolved in our marriage. I'm just so confused. We love each other so much, but admit we are both really sad and depressed at where we are. THere is so much I'm leaving out, but i'm having a difficult time trying to determine what to do...am i selling myself short of a happy marriage if he has changed? or am i dumb for thinking that he'll change?
desperateforadvice 31-35, F 2 Responses 0 Jan 30, 2013