Verbal, Not Physical.

I was shocked to find out that I was a victim of d.v. because I never got hit.  My abuse was all verbal and emotional; I'm no good, nothing I did was good or right, I'm fat, etc. etc.  I always thought domestic violence was physical abuse.  Not so!  The verbal and emotional abuse lasts so long because the perp works on your mind and you believe it.

It started while we were married and it continued 14 years after we were divorced.  He made me think everything that happened was my fault.  I had so much stress and anxiety that I thought I was going crazy.  I haven't been relaxed enough in years to just have fun and be happy because of always living everyday that the next phone call is going to be him or even the next email.  I'm always on guard of something bad happening. 

Thanks for reading.

S1967 S1967
3 Responses Feb 10, 2009

congratulations on getting out! :) You are a strong woman!

I'm working on being alright. I started therapy with a great therapist.