I have been married 16 years. I have two beautiful children, and to all on the outside, a nice life. I have a nice home, several vehicles, a boat. My husband is very well thought of in our church and our community. But, my husband gets mad easily, and when he does, he isn't nice to me. He yells and name calls. He throws things at me, which have left bruises on me. He has threatened to harm me if I leave and take our children. I have filed for divorce, but I haven't served the papers yet because I'm scared. I don't want my children growing up thinking this behavior is okay. And, I feel as though I'm partly to blame for allowing it to continue. I asked him to seek counseling, and he will not. So, I feel I have no choice but to leave. Everyone makes it sound easy to do that, but it's not. I'm so confused.....and I need advice.