Practicing Setting BoundariesWhen I was a kid, I learned that a LOT of things would be met with quiet punishment. To this day, I'm still afraid to do a lot of perfectly normal and healthy behaviors. Don't get me wrong - I'm not knees-shaking terrified of most of them, just hesitant. There are, however, a few things that REALLY scare me - I'm talking deer-in-headlights stutter-y speech confusion mind-storm sort of fear.
Two that I've noticed lately are:
* Setting boundaries
* Building a coherent view of "who am I."
Duh, my mom never let me do these things.
Despite this fear, I'm going to start setting boundaries. This is going to scare the hell out of me, but it needs to be done. Don't get me wrong, I'm still going to be an open person - just not super open. I'm also going to work toward figuring out who I am, though that's a more long-term goal.
If anyone has any advice on learning to set boundaries then I'd love to hear it!