I Am a Victim of Emotional Abuse
Finally Separated From My Controlling Husband Of 15 Years.
By:
valleygirl011
Written on September 20th, 2011
17 years ago i met a much older man than i and we started to find we had many things in common and started dating, he was 28 years older than i and then we fell in love and he asked me to move in with him and a year 1/2 later i got pregnant and had our 1st daughter and 9 months later we got married....and then my son came along, after this i started to notice my husband getting jealous, never paid attention to it because i thought it was normal and then when our 3rd child came when she was 1 month old he came up to me and told me that he didnt want me traveling alone anymore and where he goes i go and vice verse...till this day i don't know why i put up with it and not stand my ground, i guess i was scared because i had no where to go and no money because as a farmer i didn't work and he said he didn't want me working that he would support me and our children. Since then we have had 1 more child and she is now 6, through 15 years of marriage he has controlled me for 11 years of it...he controlled the money, the bills, where i go and who is allowed to visit me, he kicked my sister out 6 years ago and threatened her with a shotgun, i should of called the cops that day, he has threatened to blow my head off with a shotgun, not to my face, but talking to himself like he always does...the day i decided i had enough i called the police to help me go to my house and get my children that were with him and leave, he was in the field working so there was no confrontation and my 2 oldest decided to stay, and had no say in the matter so the police told me..so i left and went somewhere safe and did keep in contact with my 2 other children, now i am seeing them all and we visit every day and my husband has promised he would change, but when i mentioned i would get a job and find some kind of assistance for money, he told me like he always did, he will support me..so he will never change, now i have realized that i cannot keep going to the house and act like i live there and clean and confuse my children that their dad and i are getting back together, i have to file for divorce and face what ever happens to me. From experience when you find your spouse is starting to control you, get out as fast as you can, because it only gets worse and they will never change..
By:
valleygirl011
Age:
36-40
,
Female
