I Had To Beg For Everything, Now I Have A Job And He Is Going Crazy

I just got a part time work from home job where I get $100 a week, and my husband is freaking out

this is my first job in the two and a half years we have been married and he is losing it.

before if I needed something I had to ask him and it was awful. when my hair dryer broke last winter I asked him to buy me a new one while we were shopping (I made sure to pick the cheapest one) and he flipped out on me, he called me selfish and said I didn't need it, he said if I made him spend $9 on that hair dryer he wouldn't be able to get his $30 video game. he threw all the stuff out the cart and would speak to me for days.

one evening we were leaving my mother's house and I asked if we could get fast food because It was so late if I cooked we would not eat until midnight, and he actually made me beg, I dint even realize I was begging until I saw my mother's shocked face. I was so embarrassed and hurt. but what bothered me the most was he was enjoying it, he was actually smiling and kinda laughing at me begging for a burger.

I soon realized I have to beg for everything and it makes me sick

when i finally got this job I was so excited because I can at least get some diapers for my baby without having to gravel or some sanitary napkins when Im on my period without having to convince him that I need them. but most of all I thought at least now he will leave me alone about me costing him so much money because I wont have to ask him for any, boy was i wrong

every week he wants me to give him a complete list of what I spent the money on and now he is saying that $400 a month is way too much for me to have and he wants be to start giving him my money as soon as I get paid so he can save it HE MUST BE CRAZY!!!
there is no way I can go back to that, but if I don't give over the money I think I will be facing some really tough times
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5 Responses Apr 30, 2012

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Please consider your well being. This does not sound like a safe environment.<br />
check this out from this website:<br />
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http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm<br />
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"Economic or financial abuse: A subtle form of emotional abuse<br />
Remember, an abuser’s goal is to control you, and he or she will frequently use money to do so. Economic or financial abuse includes:<br />
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Rigidly controlling your finances.<br />
Withholding money or credit cards.<br />
Making you account for every penny you spend.<br />
Withholding basic necessities (food, clothes, medications, shelter).<br />
Restricting you to an allowance.<br />
Preventing you from working or choosing your own career.<br />
Sabotaging your job (making you miss work, calling constantly).<br />
Stealing from you or taking your money"

You deserve better. You can get a job. You can pay for your own expenses. Please love yourself. I'll pray for you.

You need to leave him hun! He is not worth all of this... noone deserves to beg. He's obviously got controlling issues and its sick. Get out as soon as you can!

Hate to break it to you but, I would think twice about staying with this guy.<br />
He's making you choose between two evils all the time. So you might ask, what is his actual interest in you? Does he wish to compliment the person you are? Does he want someone to fit his needs? Does he just want to show off? I'm not suggesting any of them are right, but I am suggesting you ask yourself this.