this just happened a week ago, I am not sure if he is an emotional abuser or not because my mind and heart are on two different pages. In the beginning of out relationship I couldnt have asked for a better b.f. Understanding, compassionate, adored me, we moved in together talked about the future, looked for rings, baby names etc. I dont know what changed or when, but he started to not tell me anything, even little things, such as going to a friends for the weekend, everything would be last minute. If i asked if he can just let me know ahead of time, i was giving him a hard time hanging out with his friends. The communication went out the window, if i expressed my feelings he would say its wrong, im being unreasonable, im childish. I eventually would just ignore my feelings to keep the peace and work to get us back to normal. It continued where I would find out plans or be excluded from plans and if i said anything i was wrong. I would try to communicate with him about if there is anything i need to change or work on and he would say no, but i guess he was being stubborn. He would be defensive or deflective if i say anything and would tell me im attacking his character. Eventually it got more frequent because i felt i wanted to nip this communication in the butt and would push for a resolution or voice about it more frequently. I began to feel like he was pushing me away or emotionally distancing himself, he would walk away when i was talking or not get off his video game. he would have an excuse or explanation for anything, never apoligized. I felt like he didnt care, my feeling didnt matter even when he said he did. I got relaly upset b.c he didnt tell me he took a week off of work to go on vacation with his friend. he told me a week before hand and we work together. this was after i asked if we could take a vacation. he said he didnt have the money, so i booked a vacation to visit my friend in Co. The whole trip there was a disconnect, i felt like i had to ask him to call me and even then he woudlnt. We got in a fight on the phone while on vacations and he said he is stubborn, thats how he'll always be, and basically that he does the opposite of what i want, so if i wanted him to call he wont. When i got back from vacation he i guess hacked onto my fb and read my convo i had with my friend. i was venting to her about everything, i told her about my trip. On my vaca we were hanging tou with my friend her b.f and some of his friends, me adn the one friend went on a cave tour together when we were all at the amusement park b.c we never did it. I also went on his motorcyle for a few minutes. Nothing happened or would have ever happened, it wasnt anything like that. My b.f that day broke up with me and says he knows i didnt cheat but to him thats cheating and i betrayed him and he cant ever trust me and he already had trust issues and now he resents me that he cant trust anyone for a long time. The worst past is we live together adn work together, i still need to get my stuff out. i know this wasnt 100% my fault and if he wants to be mad fine, but to dump me? and silly me wants him back so badly...help?