Dysfunction Runs In My Veins

I’m currently having too many issues to deal with life as is. I was born into a family that didn’t know how to care for their children. My father is unable to care for anyone. He can hardly take care of himself. My mother is a mental wreck but something causes her to be unable to seek help. My older sister is dependent on others for the ability to be happy. My younger sister is emotionally unstable. She has attitudes that make her appear bipolar.

My father is emotionally abusive. He constantly belittles us, my sisters and my mother. He acts as though we are nothing more than his servants, and yet he tries to tell the world about how great of a father he is. He isolates us, wanting us to always stay at home, where he can see us, where he can ask us to do things. If he asks and we deny, he yells. He is a child.

He only yells and screams. He name calls and cusses. He's called my sisters and I everything from things pertaining to hookers to things about female dogs. I feel like I've gotten the longer end of the stick from those instances.

But honestly, I got my short end in a different area.

I am an empath, I can't help but feel things. My father corners me or my sisters when giving us rides places. We are scared to go places with him because when we are alone with him all he does is rant and complain and make us feel miserable. All he speaks is depression, commands, or on his own superiority.

Things are so bad at my house that my sister is now 22 and still lives at the house. We are unable to be successful. We have been abused, we are battered, we are tired, we are depressed. I really just wish I knew what I could do.
SongWolf SongWolf
1 Response Jan 5, 2013

I wish I had all the answers for you. The only advice I can give you is to be mentally tough, do not let his words bring you down. You know that you are better than that. He is a sick person, and will make others sick like him. My advice or what I would do in your situation, is go to college, get a job and save up so you can live by yourself, or with a roomate. Leave and never look back. Make a good life for yourself. It may sound like a difficult thing to do, but you can do it. Work while your in school, try to get scholarships, maybe you can get a full scholarship and live on the school campus. Just really think and brainstrom, on how you can leave that house.
I wish you the best, and there is a light at the end of the tunnel for you, don't give up.

I agree totally with awarren. This is a sad story and I feel for you and your sisters. Things aren't going to change overnight but start planning now. If you can at least say, "this is my last year or 2 years at home", thenthere is a light at the end of the tunnel and that light will just keep getting brighter and brighter. In the mean time, keep posting on here. It's a great way to make friends and to support eachother. Through your bad experiences you can help others and they can help you. Just to share problems can feel like a huge weight has been lifted. As the above post rightly says, don't gove up.