Told Off An Abuser

I told off a "friend" today. She said that she emotionally abused her boyfriend. When I told her that emotional abuse has lasting effects, she said, "No, it doesn't." "My dad emotionally abusing me screwed me up. I have trust issues (etc)" I told her. She then said "I apologize and he gets over it." "Saying that you're sorry doesn't really help or change anything." I know many of you will agree with this. Unless they try to change, apologies mean nothing. Tears came into her eyes. "Thanks for making me feel worse about myself than I already do." My two other friends and I, one that has been emotionally abused by her aunt, got up and left. Although I knew I was right, it made me feel better to know I wasn't the only one that felt that way.


I don't feel bad for saying any of that to her and I shouldn't. She can go and cry for all I care. She should feel bad, she should yell at herself for treating her boyfriend that way. I'm sure she's crying to everyone and telling them how horrible of a person I am but she can go ahead. I've known her boyfriend since third grade and I really could care less about if calls me any names (he told me that I could just get over my Social Anxiety).


The worst part? They're going to get married and have a kid after high school. Don't try convincing them that eighteen is too young; they won't listen. She (or both of them) will just repeat the cycle to their kid (or kids). Poor, poor kid.

Lilliesforme Lilliesforme
18-21, F
Mar 15, 2010