Husband Picks Fights

Your husband sounds just like my stepdad. He would even accuse my mom of sleeping w/ family because we hug at gatherings. She was not allowed to have a job or even a drivers license. I was 7 when they got together & 14 when she left him & Im 29 now. Get your girls out! He would even accuse me of lying, stealing, & sleeping around. I hated him & hated my mom for staying. After a while I started doing what I wanted cause I figured id be in trouble either way.

Ive been married for 5 years now and in the beginning he wasn't like he is now. I thought I was the only one with a husband that name calls , constanly blames me for everything , accuses me of cheating and having a thing for men I don't even know. He says I'm a liar and believes nothing I say. If I say I went to the store he wants the receipt to time how long it took me to get home from the time I checked out at the store. If I say I had to stop and get gas or check the mail he doesn't believe me. I can't even talk to my family bc they all do wrong and are bad influences on me , and I should be ashamed to even care for them , and if I try to take up for anyone he says I'm choosing everyone over him , he calls me fat *** , and brings up my past , which I'm not proud of but it is in the past and I'm a good person , I recently lost my job bc of an employees disagreement , and its my fault. I cry myself to sleep and wonder why I'm treated this way . I don't understand?

Ive been married for 5 years now and in the beginning he wasn't like he is now. I thought I was the only one with a husband that name calls , constanly blames me for everything , accuses me of cheating and having a thing for men I don't even know. He says I'm a liar and believes nothing I say. If I say I went to the store he wants the receipt to time how long it took me to get home from the time I checked out at the store. If I say I had to stop and get gas or check the mail he doesn't believe me. I can't even talk to my family bc they all do wrong and are bad influences on me , and I should be ashamed to even care for them , and if I try to take up for anyone he says I'm choosing everyone over him , he calls me fat *** , and brings up my past , which I'm not proud of but it is in the past and I'm a good person , I recently lost my job bc of an employees disagreement , and its my fault. I cry myself to sleep and wonder why I'm treated this way . I don't understand?

Ive been married for 5 years now and in the beginning he wasn't like he is now. I thought I was the only one with a husband that name calls , constanly blames me for everything , accuses me of cheating and having a thing for men I don't even know. He says I'm a liar and believes nothing I say. If I say I went to the store he wants the receipt to time how long it took me to get home from the time I checked out at the store. If I say I had to stop and get gas or check the mail he doesn't believe me. I can't even talk to my family bc they all do wrong and are bad influences on me , and I should be ashamed to even care for them , and if I try to take up for anyone he says I'm choosing everyone over him , he calls me fat *** , and brings up my past , which I'm not proud of but it is in the past and I'm a good person , I recently lost my job bc of an employees disagreement , and its my fault. I cry myself to sleep and wonder why I'm treated this way . I don't understand?

I can't even have a normal conversation with mine, because inevitably he is going to turn into something & then it will escalate into one his name calling, belittling events. I will tell you this now that you have opened your eyes to what he does, you will be able to identify it by name - EMOTIONAL, VERBAL & MENTAL ABUSE!!

I can't even have a normal conversation with mine, because inevitably he is going to turn into something & then it will escalate into one his name calling, belittling events. I will tell you this now that you have opened your eyes to what he does, you will be able to identify it by name - EMOTIONAL, VERBAL & MENTAL ABUSE!!

the fights are just to prove to himeself that he has the control over you and to keep you under his thrumb



he expcts you to do certain thngs as soon as you do something different you will start to gain control back over him

I know what your talking about. Sometimes it seems that they just walke up that way. What ever you say will be wrong. My husband always says '"You just love Cranking me up" Sure I do. I just love being yelled at and called names. I'm not sure what advice to give, I sufffered many years and the emotional abuse eventually turned to physical abuse. At some point you have demand his respect. My kids are grown, and my biggest regret is that they think that the emotional abuse is normal. Reach out to family, and let them know what he's really like. Try not to hide his abuse from others, sometimes they have more affect on his behavior.

"Misery loves company" and this is why they pick fights. I told my abusive OH that he is just like a bully. They pick a fight until you lose control and then make it your fault. Ugh. Makes me sick to my stomach. I have ulcers already from my "eggshells". They are very clever at manipulating you. Mostly I just ignore him now or if I feel that I am going to lose it, I just calmly (or as calmly as possible) tell him that "I never argue with an idiot, they drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience" I feel for you and the kids. Mostly you can see them coming and avoid their petty little arguments but sometimes they blindside you. Damn cowards.