The 20 Year Old Virgin...

It’s not so much that I’ve never had sex, but the fact that I’m a virgin in every sense of the word. Maybe a better title would be “Never been kissed” or “Never had a boyfriend” or even “Never had someone interested in me”, because all those describe me.
It’s sad, but my experience with persons of the opposite sex is limited to what I read in books or see on tv. And every time I’m reminded of this, I feel as though something is wrong with me and I become scared that this will forever be my life...
I know it’s not true, but sometimes I feel as though guys don’t think of me in that way. I feel as though there’s always gonna be someone prettier, someone slimmer, someone more everything than me, and whatever guy that IS interested in me, will ultimately reject me for her. And the longer I remain a virgin (not just about sex), the more I feel that this is my destiny, and the more alone I feel.
Natie Natie
18-21, F
7 Responses May 29, 2012

Girls alwayz have da upper hand n guys are alwayz horny

I hope you've had some luck Natie since May. I know it can be tough, I have not had much at all intimacy, I have kissed and had one point closer contact but didn't lose my virginity and it's very rare I have kissed held hands with anyone. The main advice is stay upbeat and confident and believe in yourself. If you fail to do that then you lose attractiveness to others. I know this is hard and I can't preach as I'm poor at it. Have faith in yourself what makes you great to others and just try talk to lads and see what happens. I've never had a gf and been broken many times with rejections at times and really it sucks seing others getting love and confort or any sort of intimacy but just be yourself, as in try express yourself to people, don't worry about it and it'll work out :)

it's not just about sex,,,it's more about a emotional and physical connection,,then sex is a option,,

Dont sweat it too much. Its pretty normal, just keep looking and you find someone that is for you. you just same with me.. no gf, never kiss or touch but there is long way ahead of us

Same for me. 20 years old, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, never even held hands with a girl and all I know is rejection =/ So I understand how you feel. You're not the only one. Let's just hope things get better for us soon.. Don't give up!

Hey Natie, don't think that you are not beautiful. You will one day find someone who loves you more than anyone else. I'm sure there are guys interested in you. They may just be to shy/nervous to talk to you. You would be surprised how often guys actually get shy about things like this. Also, it's not all about whats on the outside but whats on the inside and you seem like a very sweet person. Feel free to talk to me anytime. Oh, and also I'm a 26 about to be 27 year old virgin myself but I don't mind. I'll stay this way until I have a wife which will be someone that loves me for me. <br />
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Hope to talk to you later ^_^

Heeeeyyy, I am sure you are beautiful in every way :) I am 19 male. And sometimes I feel exactly the same way. and I am actually in your position right now except switch it to "Never had a GIRLFRIEND" lol. But I know someone will find you and love and care for you always. If you ever want to rant/vent/talk, I am right here :)

anytime sweetheart :D

Thanks kidcurry92, your comment made me smile and feel a little less weird :)
Same goes for you with the rant/vent/talk offer :)

sure :) and could you add me as a friend? lol. How are you?