Is That Really So Bad??

I am 20 years old and I am a virgin. Whenever I say this, people look at me in disbelief. Some, girls and guys, see it as a negative thing as if..I'm behind or something. Usually, they think I am lying or they come up with their own assumptions as to why I am a virgin. Examples: I'm a white-laced Christian girl. I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm afraid to have sex. I'm a lesbian. I'm a bold-faced liar.

All of which are false. Truthfully, I just don't desire sex. To be honest, I've never even had a relationship. The reason for this is that a lot of guys have the wrong intentions. They have no interest in getting to know who I am. They just want to have sex then leave. I'm no ones sex toy. "It's just sex" some say, but I just don't see it that way. There is so much more to it.

I think there should be a solid emotional connection before a physical one. Honestly, I'd rather talk with someone, about everything for hours than to have a few moments of pleasure then be done.

It's a bit weird how people judge you for not having sex. Since when does it matter?
obvious11 obvious11
22-25, F
2 Responses Jul 30, 2012

Same thought here :) many guys have wrong intentions and just want to have sex, don't be afraid to do what's right :) your last question, since having sex before marriage becomes a social norm, and people claim that as trust and freedom, you are under group pressure if you do not do the same...of course, stand firm and 'say no' to things that just not right!

That's true! It has become a social norm. I totally feel the pressure, but I will never give into it. :)

Not a bad thing at all. Same for me.