Is That Really So Bad??I am 20 years old and I am a virgin. Whenever I say this, people look at me in disbelief. Some, girls and guys, see it as a negative thing as if..I'm behind or something. Usually, they think I am lying or they come up with their own assumptions as to why I am a virgin. Examples: I'm a white-laced Christian girl. I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm afraid to have sex. I'm a lesbian. I'm a bold-faced liar.
All of which are false. Truthfully, I just don't desire sex. To be honest, I've never even had a relationship. The reason for this is that a lot of guys have the wrong intentions. They have no interest in getting to know who I am. They just want to have sex then leave. I'm no ones sex toy. "It's just sex" some say, but I just don't see it that way. There is so much more to it.
I think there should be a solid emotional connection before a physical one. Honestly, I'd rather talk with someone, about everything for hours than to have a few moments of pleasure then be done.
It's a bit weird how people judge you for not having sex. Since when does it matter?