Where No Man Has Gone Before.

I am 23 years young...and a virgin. It's definitely not a subject I enjoy talking about. When people find this out about a person they stereotype them as a prude, someone that's confused, or a loser. I'm none of those things. Being a virgin doesn't define who I am, it's just another characteristic, among many others, about me. I have been in situations where I could have easily changed this status, but chose not to because I knew I would regret it. I want the first person I have sex with to feel special. I waited for them. Someone once told me that a girl loses her value when she lies down with a man. Well, I guess I like having all my value. Some times I wish I could just get it over with, but it will happen sooner or later. For now, I'll just continue living life. =)
TexasGirl512 TexasGirl512
22-25, F
39 Responses Oct 8, 2012

your body and virginity is not really part of your being , your mind . You could had an virginity amnesia. I know people of both sexes who even forgot that they had sex with particular person. What you really searching for is having regular sex .

Thats very cool, be proud!!!

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you should wait till you find the right guy unless you want to lose it now

All you can do id live lifr sooner or later you will find a guy or a guy will find you. till the day your no longer a virgin all you can do is live life and be happy

When you can only do some thing once it is not a bad thing to make sure that you do it right.

I would suggest it to anyone! It really is not as important as you would think. I agree that the person you loose your virginity to should be special. I do not think, however, that they need to be "the one". It's a fun expirience and I feel like once you do it, you might regret the fact that you didn't do it earlier!

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Way to go you! I'm in Texas, too, and I'm a virgin.
Several of my friends got pregnant in high school, and that scared me into not doing anything. I don't really talk about sex, but one advice I received from different people is to wait until I'm ready. I want to be completely in love with the man who takes my virginity.

I couldn't agree more especially about the first person feeling special as if they have recieved one of life's most precious gifts because in all actuality they have :) I value my virginity I consider it something sacred that I will not just give away to anybody. Congrats on recognizing and appreciating your value :)

I don't blame you for your choice. If anything I'll congatulate you for beeing true to yourself. But don't you belive it for a minute that you will lose value if you decide to enjoy yourself in a sexual way. Women have a right to enjoy their sexuality without beeing degraded or judged for it, it's your body and you have a right to enjoy it.

i wouldnt make fun if anyone for being a virgin. i myslef am not and proud of it.

So am I, I understand what it feels like to be made fun of and want to get it over with.

I like the TX flag in your picture! =)

Thanks :)

There is nothing wrong with being a Virgin. Don't let anyone making fun of that get to you. Just remember that shows you are stronger than them and they are jealous.

Marry me !

Can I be your first

I liked the title lol

Haha! Thanks!

Good story, I can definitely relate

I'll echo the sentiment that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin. The only person who has any right to care about what gets put in where, with whom and when is you.

Having said that, women aren't cars - they don't depreciate when you drive them off the lot. Sex can be special, but it's also fun when it's done right and it's a natural part of life. Special sex can also happen anytime, not just the first time.

I suppose my unsolicited advice is that if it feels right, go ahead.

Nothing wrong with that at all.

Your find your superman some day. When you do his xray vision will see your heart,and that all that maters. Love sweet love.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin, more power to you !

i would hit that.

There's nothing wrong with that. That's is very awe-inspiring.

im sure the man you that you will give your virginity would be so lucky and full of pride so choose well and be happy with him too.

Good for you girl!!! I'm almost 19 and still a virgin but I feel the same way! Not religious or anything but I believe and preach that the more you do something, the less value it has. I mean obviously it's people's lives and they can do what they want but you seriously don't need to rely on sex to be happy in a relationship. The minute you do that, it becomes a pure physical relationship and the meaning of emotional commitment and attachment becomes meaningless. I don't know. Being completely naked in front of someone and having them judge your body scares me... that and the more sex you have, the more addicted you become... It'll lead you into nothing but a huge hot mess. I want someone who puts me in front of themselves. After all, isn't that what love is about? If they're going to push me towards having sex with them, I'd dump them without second thoughts because if they really loved me, they'd love me for standing my ground and respect my decisions. Also not one for artificial contraceptives. I want to lose my virginity to my future fiance/ husband. :) team abstinence!

I'm a virgin too. but im content with myself...
You should be proud of yourself! not many make it that far... x

i would just like to ask, if it isnt too personal.. are you a viginal virgin, or a total virgin !! there are so many ways to have sex, which are fantastic without letting a guy into your *****. anal, oral, strap-on. which would you consider taboo.. just an interested guy here, thats all .. hugs xx

Might as well be honest...I'm a complete virgin. The thought of anal is gross to me, but the thought of oral really turns me on. Giving it more so than receiving it. I am a very private person and sex is really personal. I just haven't met anyone worth letting in....no pun intended.

thanks for the honest response ! you only know within youself what feels right & im all for you should stick with it girl. good for you.. hugs xx

Thanks! =)

i know exactly what you mean. i am 22 years old and a virgin and got my first kiss at 20! i just dont feel like i want to compare or be compared to. he will come!!

yeiy:) yo a woman i respect!!!tis hard remaining pure,buh tis def a dignified choice.
amazing woman!
Let no 1 fool u that yo missing out on sex,unlike purity,it wil always b there

OK, so you are virgin and there is no problem with that. About feeling special , you may be wrong about it . I would say you need one or two guys taking care of you for a period at least two years, then you willl know the differance . Don't mix feelings and sex together , that's something you will have to learn by yourself.

thats beautiful

I'm 19, and I wish I had waited, but a girl most definitely DOES NOT lose her value after she lies with a man; there's no way that could be true. If it were, a man would divorce a woman after their wedding night. Don't let anyone lie to you. :)

Wait for marriage.. I'm 16 and I wish I would have waited..

I was 19, and I wish I'd waited longer. Good for you.

Good for you!!! Years from now you will have a wonderful memory and be glad of your choice.

Being someones first is special...........wait for your right one :)

Good for you! :) Keep waiting till you find that perfect guy and make him feel special :)

Good for you. As long as you are ok with ourself, all else is just noise.