I Am a Virgin

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By: AW91

Written on November 9th, 2012

I am 21, almost 22, and still a virgin. This is mainly because I am quite shy, although I wouldn't have a problem making it happen if I really wanted it. I am a little bit embarrassed by this, as every other person in my family over the age of 18 is either married, in a relationship, and/or a parent. My own sister got married and gave birth to her son when she on the verge of turning 21. Yet here I am, single, a virgin, and only just recently starting to become interested in relationships.

On the other hand, I also happen to be quite proud of this. I live in a small town, where the norm is to pretty much get pregnant and married (and usually divorced not long after) right after high school. I am a little bit of an exception to the rule, I suppose. I just hope that my future boyfriend (or husband, maybe?

) won't mind this and will perhaps love me more for it. I am so inexperienced, sometimes I feel like I just need to get it over with. But that thought only crosses my mind occasionally. I know the right person will come along eventually.

By: AW91

Age: 18-21 , Female

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17 responses

balleteunuch

i am a eunuch virgin at 42 (was male) no shame in keeping yourself to that special person

Nov 13, 2012
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rockyassbad

same here ..may be shyness i weird i myself is confused whether it is good or bad....soemone help me

Nov 11, 2012
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8l8sapphirebutterfly8l8

Hold on to it!!! I was all gung-hi for True Love Waits from church and b/c I just wanted it to be special and a gift to my future husband, and to not have that experience ever unwantedly diluted by unwelcome flashbacks...but that was stolen from me. I was dating a guy who was so desperately trying to get me to marry him, but that persistence eventually pushed me away. It started off like it would have been great...I want in love with him yet, but it was a happy relationship until he smothered me away from it! We were snuggled naked one day, and I don't know how he did it, but one calculated thrust and he was in hands free! I was crushed, and he knew I was a virgin, but he did it anyway...poof. It's done. Just like that. Can't take it back, your ONE SHOT is gone. So I did eventually get free of him, but no longer the virgin I had prided myself on as a 20 y/o.
Keep it, until you KNOW you will give it to someone who DESERVES it to be gifted to them.
Kudos for avoiding the pressure!

Nov 9, 2012
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- 8l8sapphirebutterfly8l8
  And I don't say at all the guy raped me, I mean, I was naked right there...I wasn't asking for it, but well...I guess he assumed it would be ok...it's both our fault...
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- 8l8sapphirebutterfly8l8
  Other guys I had interest in knew I was a "good girl" even if I did hang out with the "bad crowd". The greatest compliment I ever got was from a super hot bodybuilder. He said "You are not the kind of girl guys date, you are the kind of girl guys want to marry." And they all refused to go out with me b/c they respected that I was still "pure", and yes, I was told I was hot, but they only dated the other girls because they knew they would get some...but I was special. It wasn't a blow off as I thought at first...several of them agreed!!! I was sad at first b/c no one in my group would do more than make out with me (oh, that night in the twilight Fall rain was delicious with Donny!) but that was why...
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- AW91
  I loved reading your comments! Thank you. :D
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- 8l8sapphirebutterfly8l8
  And if this is important to you, the right guy will be floored that you waited for HIM!!! How fun will that be!?! It's a very intimate thing to let those vulnerabilities be put in the hands of another soul.
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- AW91
  Yes, yes. The right person is worth waiting for. I just hope I find him soon. I have never been in love, and want to be. :)
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- abcgum64
  Well-said!!! I agree with all of this... virgins are an extreme rarity today because of society's standards and expectations that get fed into our noggins.
  
  Nov 10, 2012
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- groundshaker
  Im sorry that happened to you. Why were you guys snuggled upo naked? Was that his idea?
  
  Nov 14, 2012
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- groundshaker
  I thnik when it comes to virginity guys got it a little better than ladies because if a guy is not aroused by a girl, nothins gonna happen, if you know what I mean. But for ladies its a little different.
  
  Nov 14, 2012
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BestCobra

I'm a 24 year old guy and still a virgin by my own choice. I've had chances where I could have changed that but there was no point in my opinion. I'm waiting until I get married, not for any spiritual or religious reasons at all but because it's my body and personally I would just rather my first time be with someone I truly love and plan on spending the rest of my life with.

Nov 9, 2012
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- groundshaker
  Thats awesome. Kudos to you brother.
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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groundshaker

You dont have to feel bad. Im a 27 year old guy going on 28 and Im still a virgin. Nope Ive never penetrated anyone. Not like I havent tried but Im different from most guys. I have to have an emotional connection to the girl for me to be aroused by her otherwise I just leave her disappointed if you know what I mean. So a lot of the times I tried I couldnt "get going". I've done other things just not "it". Hope to one day though with someone special. I would hate to loose it to some random chick. I dont want to be like my friends in high school who, a lot of them said, regret thier first time.

Nov 9, 2012
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- AW91
  That is really sweet. :) I agree about not wanting to regret it. I want to be in love with the guy I lose it to.
  
  Nov 9, 2012
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- goodman72
  I am not a virgin but had the same response when a friend of mine got me a prostitute. He went in one room and pushed me into the other. this gorgeous women walked in and we tried to get to know each other then I just said look. No offense I just dont have any connection with you and I will call it now. I can't do it becaue there is no connection. we sat and talked for about half an hour while gettin dressed and trust me she was gorgoues I just didnt have that one thing "the connection " I say good luck to anyone that can find that connection because thats what it takes. A woman can ***** herself down to nuthin and get raped by god knows how many men but a man can ***** himself naked and then what. No woman with brains would approach and then he maybe get beaten up or arrested but anyways good luck to you all to find that connection cause once you do you will know that life has changed for the better.
  
  Nov 14, 2012
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- groundshaker
  Good story. Glad to know Im not the only guy that feels that way.
  
  Nov 14, 2012
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