People Are So Judgmental.

im eighteen, and a virgin. it's a personal choice that ive made. I don't want to lose it to some ***, and then regret it when someone truly deserving comes past.

majority of people frown when they realize that you're a virgin. why? perhaps they think that you're not good enough to get someone. i disagree. i KNOW that there's nothing wrong with me, or any of you as a matter of fact.

these days, a persons 'looks' say it all. i don't see how that works either. apparently, if you're pretty, then you've ought to have had sex. once again, thats false. pretty people can have brains, and they have the ability to make wise decisions. stop judging the way someone looks.

im proud of the choices that ive made; &all the times when Ive rejected the sex addicts. i don't want to ruin my life. and to all of the other virgins out there, don't be ashamed. You are very special people.
nonnibe nonnibe
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I'm proud of you... :) I love you..(Is true love) not lost..

u are special ;-)

i will date you. I would like to have someone just like you.

Fantastic, I hope someday more people become as aware as you are. I wasn't and I made a mistake of caving into peer pressure. I know people think that us men do not care about these things, but I do.

I'm 21 and I'm a virgin and people always try to put me down about it, but it's my choice and it's a good thing you're being smart about it , unlike other females and males

Proud of you!

Good. I'm glad you are smart enough to wait until the time is right.

May I have an add?

Be proud of who you are. It's a beautiful thing.

That's awesome. Never be ashamed of being yourself. It's good that you're waiting. Most girls don't nowadays. I remember my youth group leader had us take sips from a water bottle, then he got a unopened bottle and asked which would we rather have. Everybody chose the clean one, and then he said "yea no one wants the used one, remember that for yourself too."

your youth group leader is absolutely right, couldn't have said it any better myself. take care! :)

Congratulations for standing up for yourself!!! My daughter is 20 and she has kept her virginity also, she knows that she has plenty of time to wait for the right person to give it to.

Hey! You have your own choices,
Don't care how people says about it.

Peaple who judge by looks are missing out on something I think. True love. Keep up the good work!!!!!!👍

very well said! thanks a lot:)

No problem.:)

I'm admiring your decision to be a virgin. You are waiting until marriage. Am I right ? I'm interested in smoking. I wrote you a letter, 10 minutes ago DON

yes, waiting till marriage.

I made a mistake. I think like you, found that a girl really wanted me aroused. We were on our way to my home, and she put her head in my lap while I was driving. Later, that year I met a girl I loved, and still do. You will find a good husband, noni. Marriage teaches you to be unselfish.

Thank you, I am 18 and I am a virgin too, this helped me a lot. :)

excellent choice! Dont let those judgmental people put you down!

believe me, they try so hard!

Good choice indeed. Everyone does not have to be the same .
Keep it until you are married and give it to someone that really deserves it.

i am very hap-py hap-py hap-py to read this i am a virgin as well and it is something to be proud of. also it makes more sense to wait.
i hope you don't mind that i add you

Yep, your right.

Agreed. Some people need self-control.

I don't really get why most females must lose virginity it the in thing?

It's good that you choose to wait, young miss. It is indeed a wise choice. Know now that as an adult, it will become that much more difficult. But reading this shows me that you will do just fine when that time comes. Proud of you.

thankyou for your kind words. i wont say that its easy, because it really isnt. but im determined to keep it this way, and hopefully i'll last.

You are most welcome.

There is no doubt in my mind that you won't make it. I just hit 20 and im still in the same boat as you.

The best thing? Live your life one day at a time. Take care of today and let tomorrow be tomorrow. Often times we find ourselves trying to predict the outcome. That's a big mistake. Why? It'll make you become desperate to see the end of the waiting period.

But again, I doubt you will give up.

hats off to you. im sure the person that you end up with will be very deserving. youre absolutely right, we shouldnt waste our time today worrying about what the future holds.

Haha thank you. You are very kind.

Yep. As my grandfather would say" it's bad juju" lol.
Well I'm off to work.
Pleasure to meet you, by the way.
Perhaps we could chat some other time?

it was great talking to you, do keep in touch. have a great day, and work hard! x

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first way to be strong. Second, it is amazing how people don't read legit stories enough.

dont worry im almost 18 and im still a virgin

proud of you!

Now try to keep it a few extra years until you get married :)

i definitely will! thankyou for your positivity :)

Thank you for being honest with yourself and with god :)

Yeah,thats true,and i totally agree ,even im a guy,id said thad if id had a choice,id choosed a virgin girl,thats normal to keep virginity as much as possible cause of this depends your own health,keep brave

I'd say it's true but also that it's pretty bad for guys that are ahem virgins *looks away*

society's made it sound like its a bad thing for a guy to be a virgin. but i honestly believe theres nothing wrong with it. in fact, it just proves that he was patient and didnt mess around with women, like the other 98% of the male population would do.

trust me, they do exist. theyre just hard to find, and rare. im not sure if id only marry a virgin guy; provided that he hasnt had sex without any emotional attachment, respect for the girl; and not just for the sake of it.

if i sense that they were in a committed relationship (and no, i dont mean a couple of days/months) but maybe a longer period of time; then perhaps. but then again, they all have a different story to tell!

we're on the same page :D

AMEN! it defeats the entire purpose of those words. and when they break up, they get all depressed saying "she was the one. i loved her, ive never met someone like her." then two days later...meets another girl, and the story repeats itself.

You're right no doubt about it but its like most of friends don't really understand about why a guy doesn't wanna sleep with just any girl, not saying I'm waiting for marriage just saying that I want a stable relationship before anything I guess haha

I am a guy and I am a virgin. If the society doesnt like it then it is tuff luck to them. I am in to questioning the social norms as it is. To be honest people who just go sleeping around are not really acting on love.

1 day a right person may come along probley wont happen till I sort my own problems out as I am realising them more and more.

waiting for a stable relationship is a sensible thing to do. and youre always going to meet people that think differently to you; so just dont let that change your perspective about things.

Mmmhmmm I like to distance myself from society in honesty but finding someone you click with and can share things freely with is always difficult there are times of weakness and thinking that let me get it over with but that would make me feel like it I compromised my own way of thinking gahhhh I over think >_<

Same here ashes

Yup well me and another mate we are both ..... V's he's been in a relationship for 3 years and he's waiting for marriage Im more forever alone and can't find the right bond or emotional attachment needed I guess
It's defo not age it's the view on sex that defines it I think

there are many people out there like myself, that think that this is a rare quality to possess. it just says so much about a man! it'll all pay off sooner or later when you meet the right person. dont let your views change.

Ahaha don't worry it's too late to change my views I've seen too much haha
Maybe Australia will hold the key lol
In honesty I can't even be bothered to go out with any girls now it feels dull unless I can see a spark

haha dont have expectations from aussies, trust! lets swap prefer england

Aha don't have expectations for here either haha watch Geordie Shore, The Valleys or Made In Essex if you want proof

ive heard a lot about geordie shore, not the best stuff!

Trust me England is worse then Australia Geordie shore makes Jersey Shore look like a church show and the valleys could be called ****** are us

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Good for u

Good one girl! you can sum it up when you think to yourself "I will be able to look back at this and be happy with him as my first" just don't be one of those not until marriage blah blah blah types.

awesome! I was until almost 20. I waited on purpose as well, but then this one girl just wouldnt let up!

your so cute though

you will meet that person soon that you will want to have sex with

I have much respect for you I lost mine when I was 18 to a guy I eventually married and became abusive! I regret all of it! I was young and I got caught up in lust! Stick to what you want and don't let people pressure you!

so sorry for what you had to go through. i hope things are much better with you now. thanks for your advice, and i definitely won't let anyone pressure me into it. all the best:) xx

You are extremely intelligent and thoughtful. Off course there is nothing wrong with being virgin. I am happy that you are proud of your decisions that you made.

Cheers girly :)
19 and never been laid !! We are awesome :)

good on you! hope youre well:)

Dont want to loose it to some ***....hahaha i almost snorted. My friends and I were discussing it the other day and this is what we came up with:
You only loose it once (YOLIO)
So watch it lol.

lol, good one!

it is really worthy....

Be proud!


good for you. honestly.

I So Agree with you! And you took the words right out my mouth! but Well Said!

i wish more women thought like you. people are so glamour obsessed. i'm a 22 y/o virgin, simply haven't met anyone i really give a **** about

i wish more women thought like you. people are so glamour obsessed. i'm a 22 y/o virgin, simply haven't met anyone i really give a **** about

I'm feeling Special Already :)

you are special tien :)

you're so smart! I adore ur intelligence! btw, for asians.. Most of them are still virgin when they're 18

I admire your thoughts! it is tuff I know

thanks! and yes, tough indeed

I lost my virginity when i was 18 to my now wonderful husband! He is my one and only and i wouldnt change it for the world. Youll know when its the right time for you.

You are a good woman. Your future husband will truly be blessed.

thankyou for your lovely words:)

I personally think sex is something special to be enjoyed with someone you care about. I've only slept with three women. One is my wife, and I'm still in relative daily contact (Facebook and occasionally we run into each other at the store or what not) with the other two. They are special people to me, with or without virginity. As a 28 yr old man, I'm expected to sleep with anything with a pulse, but that'll never happen. For the record, I lost mine at 15. Being young does not make sex a non special moment. Just remember that regardless where life takes you, that your partners were special; as special as your, now gone, virginity.

u r absolutely right nonnibe.

i myself am a virgin and im 19 and plan to wait on marriage congrats because teens these days a hurry to grow up kudos to u and u are inspiration to girls your age all around the world

nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age! Do what you are comfortable with don't let anyone force you to do anything you don't want to. if you want to remain a virgin then good for you. its a personal choice and one that you can never take back so only have sex when you are ready and with someone you are ready to do it with. it doesn't matter what anyone thinks be comfortable with yourself and remember only you know when the time will be right if ever for you. If you want to wait, then wait! Anyway with all the rampant disease around waiting is the safe way to be. maybe like the man who told you he is waiting at 35 to be married then good for him and when you get the marriage license you get tested for diseases at least where i am and you know your partner will be safe. Don't ever let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

I love the way your mind works - good for you

I lost mine at 22.

That's right, dear young lady. You are even still very young, so Please do not mind them.
I am a virgin myself, and I am 35, my wedding is coming up in a few months time. I am getting married to a young lady of 27, who is also a virgin herself. Like you rightly said, every virgin is special. I am proud to be one, and I thank God for my fiancee. I personally believe that Virgins are good-news any day! God bless you.

thanks dave. all the best with your wedding. and i assure you, all the wait will be worth it!

This is so true :)


you are welcome :)

I was a virgin until I got married when I was 19, and since my ex left me I've abstained from sex as I've decided to do so until I marry again. I think the fact that you're a virgin is awesome, and everything you've said here is spot on.

Thanks for sharing! :)

thanks for your answer. i hope you find the right person this time :)

Thank you, I do too :)

well done young lady, your a star,

thankyou, appreciate it

I think it is great you have waited. I have never heard a girl say she waited to long for sexy but plenty said they wished they had waited longer. It takes a special girl to have enough respect for herself that she waits.

Well said

Its okay wait for prince charming i feel the same way and i get called a **** alot and i dont deserve it i dont want to **** alot of men ....

hey i am agree ..when i was in college at age 20.. i told this things to a girl that i am virgin than she laughed on me ..then i felt very bad after that some of my friends make joke on me , some told me dumb and other ..i was in ruin but virginity gives you purity , a different intoxicated fragrance and beautiful feeling keep little childish thinks in your mind and innocent ...still i am virgin and don"t know the taste of kiss ...sometime i crave and also desperate but the way of thinks and feelings and my desire save me but i feel great and awesome andddd i am not ashamed ...and really you are adorable

judgement is peoples most cowardice flaw, it not only shelters their insecurity but it gives them empty pride which they learn to live off and crave.

Either way you'll be judged. Be yourself and keep up with the good decisions. Poud of you

You are 1 type of girls who I do admire for your views. I tend to shun people who just talk about sex and nothing else to be honest.

I have met a sex addict woman who had tried to come on to me she found I was very uncomfortable with it and refused to do anything sexual because I also bear in mind the rules of her religion regarding sex before marriage. I have explained to her why few weeks ago and she is now happly married to a guy from up north in same religion she may of lost the sex addiction I hope.

I admire girls like you, who make such a decision and keep to it!


Hey its no ones business. Good on u :)

exactly right! thankyou:) xx

We need to stick together it's funny how people think they can intimidate u by words.

i just wanted to say that i respect you for this

thankyou so much

It's your choice and I congrats you on staying pure

thanks a lot:)

Very Well Said.

im proud of ur choice too big like

I'm 25 and absolutely committed to being a virgin on my wedding night so keep being proud of what you've achieved

I couldn't agree with you more. I am 24 and still a virgin and will remain. You are right there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I must say personally I treasure my virginity, its special and should be treated as such :) By the way I think your cool for standing up, and saying that being a virgin is perfectly normal!! You rock!!!

thankyou! and you rock too:)

You are waiting for that spesial guy. There is nothing wrong with that. Hope you find what you are looking for. Heart felt wishes.xoxo.

Good on you, girl! I admire your confidence. Having sex too early with anyone will only tire your sex life later. Make it special, you're only 18!

you're right,thankyou.

absolutely agree! and admire your sense of self confidence and your pride for your decisions! My personal view is that emotionally and morally it is better to have the first sex experience with one that you really love and want to choose as your long term life companion.

very true.

Although I'm not sure that having sex ruined my life, I do believe that not having had it with whom I did would have been better... But then again, the situation I was in, it seemed appropriate, and better lose it to him than the one I love, because that would have been a painful experience.

The point is, I used to think like you and hope you don't succumb to the pressure, hopefully you find someone who understands that it's something precious to you and will hold it as a cherished gift :)

thanks for your honesty. i guess opinions change according to ones circumstances. sometimes we give in, as it seems like the only option available. i do hope that i share it with someone special when the time comes.
take care.


Good for you, more women should stay virgins.

hey mouse.
I don't know if more women should stay virgins. It is their personal choice. But those that do remain as virgins, shouldn't be put down.

You are so right, it is their choice. Thank you.

im 21 and i wish i was still a virgin but its too late for that

don't feel bad. we all make mistakes.

I wish I can be a virgin again! I wouldn't frickin care what people think! :)

nonnibe, be beautiful, smart, sexy and virgin! Honestly, they don't hate you... they just wish they are like you and they envy you... let them be... and you don't really have to tell your secret outloud to your friends... they won't get it, and it will only make you feel bad... you outshine them, girl! :)

i always like to think that people envy me. perhaps that's being a little cocky. But it's true. I haven't given a part of myself to anyone yet. Once it's gone, it wont come back.
thankyou :)

Wow, thank you! You took the words right out of my mouth.

I hope you continue in your self pride. I hope you do not let anyone force you. Best of luck :)

i hope i stay this way till I'm ready. thankyou for the support (:

You are welcome hun, please remember we all have low moments. Keep that in mind when making major decisions. Also, your decision your mind your body your life. :) It is nice to know that young women, and from reading other posts, young men are gaining moral aptitudes and keeping them :)

Many times other people will make you think you 're odd, when most of the time, they are having the same struggle. In my opinion, having sex with others is a very difficult personal choice. And even once you think you found someone that you'd like to do this with and they agree to it, now you both have to agree as to what makes it work for you. And then it gets more complicated from there as your emotions are involved. What others think is really, as others have said here, of no consequence and you will know when and with whom to share your most intimate self with. Again, Do NOT be fooled by all this double messaging that the media sends or what your friends might tell you or even what your family might say, because only You know the truth and your truth is just as valid if not more so than theirs since you live it every single day.

fabulous answer.

i'm happy that 'im not the only person who is like dis...its weird when people put you down just because we are still virgin...that's none of their business although...proud to be a virgin ..:)

stay proud of it!

good for you, im 32, and i havent even got that far yet!! i just dont believe in doing something, just because everyone else is supposedly doing it, and if i do get the opportunity to get that far, i will be doing it to please myself and not anyone else!!

it's all about you. do what makes you happy. :)

i agree!! : )

I am 37 and not got that far yet. Reason the situation has not been there for it to happen yet.

it'll come soon.

respect. how can you not respect someone who sticks to their morals and has a back bone? keep it up.

agree big time...

Saving it for that someone special is far better than wasting this amazing gift on fickle and fleeting relationships. Good job for standing up for what you believe in, especially when you have been ridiculed for what you know is right!

yup don't waste it on someone who is not worth it... :)

Since when is this ANBODY's business but the individual's???!!! GOOD GRIEF! And 18..a virgin..NORMAL! You are to be commended and YOU are the better person for waiting! Wow. Sex is sacred. Or it USED to be. The media has made sure to ruin that and make it as ordinary yet at the same time as dirty as possible. What a travesty. GOOD FOR YOU for waiting for the right man!

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. I should be more embarrassed then you. I am in my late 20's. Try explaining that to a girl on a first date. lol You should be proud of yourself for that. People who want to degrade you or make fun of you are probably just jealous. You have something they may no longer have.

i'd think it's kinda cool, actually

Even in your late 20s, don't be embarassed... I am in my early 30s, oh boy I wish I am still a virgin...!!! :)

@MelbaBlaine :) Glad someone does.

@Idoagree Thanks. You could always try the born again virgin thing.

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look its not a bad thing to be a virgin at your age it just means you have good morals i know how jug,mental people are im a virgin at 19 so yeah but also you cant spell judgemental without mental lol