My Story

I am 21 and in college. I am still a virgin. In a way i choose to be.. in a way I do not. I am proud to still be a virgin, and I either get praised for it or criticized for it. Honestly though, I could care less. I am who I am, and I love it. I haven't met the one person I want to lose it too. Funny thing about me being a virgin. I dated a guy for almost 4 years. Thats dedication. The thing is, now that we have broken up it seem impossible to find another guy who is willing to wait. Is anyone else having this problem?
somecountrygirl somecountrygirl
18-21, F
3 Responses Jan 13, 2013

You don't seem like you need any advice.

I don't even think it is the virginity part that matters so much to you. Rather, it is the not being able to find your other half that is really frustrating. That being said, the problem isn't finding guys who are willing to wait until your ready, the problem is findings guys who can feel as equally about you as you would them. To feel whole and complete.

Do not despair when a man says your abstinence is unacceptable. As a matter of fact, thank them. Such men would have only been a waste of your time anyway as their interest in only be in a sexually active relationship with you reveals that they are merely acting on an infatuation for lust.

This difficult time you are having has little to do with your integrity, but rather, how hard it is to find a man more concerned with finding his other half than sex.

Try volunteering at various charities. The people who frequent such places are USUALLY of higher values. I have done this myself and it has help me find a large number of good quality women. The only problem I have is that they are usually much older than I am :( ...but also because of my resilience to show interest in anyone in the past years (for a myriad of reasons why). However, I feel like this year is my year to find my missing piece. Hopefully it will be yours as well.

I feel like you know me too well. Haha. That's the exact problem I was having. I do believe I may have found the guy though. He is great. Doesn't care about just having sex and is willing to wait with me. Hope you find your lady! :)

I don't know why people get so dependent on sexual relationships, i mean i'm attracted to the opposite sex but i'm perfectly satisfied connecting with women in other ways...

Exactly. I honestly believe that sex complicates relationships.

If you end up giving it up for someone who won't wait, you're going to regret it. It takes a lot of courage to wait for so long, why give it up after all that? Someone will come along who will want to wait, or you'll meet someone you won't want to wait for!

Yeah. I'm not planning on giving it up. I am very stubborn about that. Guys have tried.