Still A Virgin, New Changes

I'm back, it's been a long time since I've been on here. I think the last time I was here, I was about to turn 21. Now I just turned 22 last December. I'm still a virgin but there have been some changes. I no longer identify as bisexual, but asexual. I've done a lot of research over the past couple of months, and even more soul searching before that. Asexuality is when you experience no sexual attraction to either gender. Some have no sexual desire, and some have a lot. But it's not strong enough to make us want to act on those desires with others. I discovered AVEN (Asexuality Visibility Education Network) which really answered my questions and problems I've had my entire life.

I know I'm a virgin now, truly, because I don't want to have sex. I want to lose my virginity, but I don't want to sleep with anyone. It's very uninteresting to me. I have nothing against it, I just have no desire for it. And I have no desire for it because there is no one I've ever been sexually attracted to. At this moment in time you could show me a picture of a very attractive man or women, it does nothing to me except that I see their beauty.

I don't think I will always be a virgin, but it's even more probably that I will forever be because of this situation. When I first left comments here, I think I was really uneasy about the whole thing, now I don't mind it much. As long as I find someone who feels the same someday, I'm not as worried about my "sexual status" in society. I just want to be me, not feel pressured by anyone. My body feels beyond sex, my mind craves romance and intimacy with another. But sex will not be needed in the near future, and I will not compromise.
Evlana Evlana
22-25, F
4 Responses Jan 19, 2013

still willing to help if you want my help

you will have sex whrn you feel the time is right and your with the right guy or girl

I'm asexual so there will be no right girl or guy because I do not experience sexual attraction to either sex.

Sad that there will always be people who assume you just haven't met the right person and this asexual thing is all because you haven't met them yet. I get people reading my info on sites and they ignore the anxiety stuff and ask me to meet them, say I just haven't met the right person to get me over my anxiety, and it's like they don't even read what we write. We can make our own choices and know how we feel and yet others always think they know us better.

I hate when people do that. They zero in on the parts you don't want them to and forget all about what you're really saying to them. They don't listen.

Sounds like a great frame of mind. Congrats on getting to that point of peace with yourself!

Thank you :)


thank you