Frustrated 'uber-virgin'

I'm a virgin and nearly 25 years old. To say the least its depressing. The only relationships I've managed have been long distance over the Net and never resulted in sex. It really saddens me to think most people my age or younger that I know (and don't know - since I don't know that many people lol!) have been at it for the past 5-10 years. I feel like I've lost so much of my youth already just waiting for something a lot of people take for granted. The reason being is a combination of course shyness/social anxiety/lack of opportunity.

So I'd really like to meet a nice VIRGIN girl of similar age who I can lose it with. I've become rather fixated on the idea of losing it to another virgin, especially since I've been waiting a while now. I think I'd be too intimidated by someone with experience on my first attempt and it would be nice to learn together. I'd be happy to do it with a friend, not looking for relationships necessarily.

taloden taloden
26-30, M
10 Responses Jun 5, 2009

Wow. It is great to see such special people all on the same board. I too have been waiting for the woman of my dreams so that we can exclusively enjoy each other fully. That is to say, we both have the same understanding that we are the only ones.<br />
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How do you know you have the right person? She marries you.<br />
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High stakes, but on the money.

I really liked the last comment by weco about being a god-like persona. No doubt, we all are elite and amongst the very few in this whole similar crowd of people. We should be proud of this, rather than ashamed as some people might make one feels after knowing the fact. I am going to be 26 and still a virgin, and I am looking for the right man of my life with whom I will willing lose my virginity to be with him always. As it is rightly said by one above, it is going to be a different and gracious feeling if it will be the first time for both a man and woman to lose their virginity together.

I don't know if you are male or female. Whatever the case, it is a beautiful attribute to keep yourself for the eventual person that you will fall in love with. Whether you have waited because you wanted too, or due to anxiety, consider yourself lucky and a sacred ob<x>ject, because you are. Do not let yourself be pressured by society in doing anything you are not yet comfortable with, whether sex or otherwise. You are important and you are not an ob<x>ject for other people to enjoy for their selfish purposes. When you ultimately find love, and you will, sex will be a natural, spirtual and euphoric experience. Why destroy that incredible possibility that only a few lucky experience for meaningless sexual experiences?<br />
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Respect yourself always and be proud that you are one of the elite few that remain a virgin. Remember that mankind has always put a sacred theme on virginity and a god-like persona on those who are virgins.<br />
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You are special, so be proud!

the same here Im 29 and still a vergin. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont think its ever going to happen at this point.

I definitely feel the same way! I turn 25 in a month, and I'm just getting tired of being a virgin. It seems like I've waited so long that I've missed out on so much, but at the same time, I feel it is a gift I want to give to a man I love. Sometimes I feel I should just do it and get it over with (like with a male friend or something), but then I would feel awful if I met the right person later on. Tough stuff...

I'm almost 25 years old, and a virgin as well. It's not like I'm asexual, but it's just that I've always been introverted and socially awkward ever since middle school. Not to mention that I don't go partying or clubbing every night. Friends always tell me that it's all OK and I'll find the right one eventually, but honestly I don't care anymore. I just feel that I need to find someone who would willingly and voluntarily do it with me and I can finally stop being a boy and become a man haha.

Hi justlikem<br />
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I wouldn't worry about finding virgin men. They outnumber virgin girls massively, so if you look in the right places online you stand a chance of meeting some. Finding virgin girls is the tough part but I gues being male I would say that.<br />
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The marriage thing could be an issue though. In the end you should do what you feel is right for you and if that reduces your chances then so be it. People always tell me looking for another virgin is stupid given my age.<br />
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Personally I wouldn't be willing to wait until marriage and I'm not even sure I'd want to be into a relationship before I had sex, but everyone's different, so do what feels right.

Well, this makes me feel less alone ... i have found several stories like this in this site... i thought i was the only one :-O, i am female , i am 25 and still virgin and... i also like the idea of losing it (if it happens some day) with a virgin , even though it would be very very more difficult to find a virgin man ( :-O );and what makes it more difficult is that i expect it happens in my wedding night; I suffer the same shyness and social anxiety and this conditions have made impossible for me to know people and being in a relationship. Besides most men are not attracted to the idea of being in relationship without sex. It is complicated.<br />
I think i am in the point that i should change my mind and leave the idea of wait untill marriage.<br />
Good luck ... i hope you find what you are looking for.

Hey, i feel exactly the same way -I am 21 and a virgin. Not through lack of trying but people always seem to be interested in my friends rather than me - which ultimately leads to a lack of confidence in my department. Everyone seems to say to me that it will happen in the end - funny how none of these people have been virgins since they were 15 - which kind of gets me thinking sometimes that it is never going to happen - i hope it does as being a virgin annoys the hell out of me - i just want it to happen and be done with!!

Hi, thanks for replying.<br />
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I do try and keep my hopes up. I think for a while I did just go with the attitude that it will happen when I least expect didn't lol<br />
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So I'm not sure that approach really works unless you're constantly putting yourself in situations where you meet new people.<br />
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I'm trying to be a bit more proactive about finding what I want, though I think it comes across to many girls as desperation. You just can't win. lol