I Am a Virgin

Still a Virgin At 43

By: amanecer

Written on September 24th, 2007

I used to worry about being so old and still being a virgin. I know how important it is to me. Sometimes I am really sad about it, but most of the time I wouldn't have it any other way. In a way, I still have a naive romantic side to me, waiting for my (old) prince charming to rescue me. At this point in my life, I just don't worry about it. I am proud of it. My friends know it and respect me for it. I grew up going to a catholic school from grade 1 thru 12. They always talked about the importance of saving yourself for your husband, although my junior and senior year, I think about one third of the girls were pregnant. I always wanted a reason to go on a honeymoon. If I am not a virgin, why have a honeymoon? That is just a vacation at that point. I can honestly say that I have never had an STD, never had to worry about being pregnant. I also think it is REALLY funny telling people I am a virgin. People just don't believe it anymore that a person can still be a virgin at my age. Well, Here I am - and proud of it!

By: amanecer

Age: 41-45 , Female

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56 responses

loneTrucker80

Wow finally a woman that won't cheat on me I need to get to know you young lady

Apr 22
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dirtysx4fun

wow.... we r really impressed..

Apr 15
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boatrace

I am a male virgin of 67 & whilst it was frustrating when i were a young un i am now quite proud of it & wouldn't want it any other way.

Jan 30
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redvase

I am a 53yr old male virgin and shame does turn into pride with age.

Jan 28
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ventura391

That is so sad!!

Jan 1
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- boatrace
  WHY?
  
  Jan 30
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- ventura391
  If you haven't figured it out by now you never will! Boatrace I feel sad for guys like you, never knowing just how good a women's touch truly is a taste of heaven. If you think virginity at 67 is something to be proud of, then dude all I can say is never play the lotto because you will never know just how good winning feels,and I don't say that with malice but with hart felt empathy. Peace
  
  Feb 1
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julijaalka

I am proud of you.

Jan 1
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Laterral

I don't know if you're proud of it or trying to justify it to yourself. There's nothing to be proud of really, but at the same time there's nothing to be ashamed of.

Nov 22, 2012
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- boatrace
  LETS FACE IT people look at sex through rose tinted glasses only seeing the nice clean sanitized version. When in reality it must be smelly & messy. (not my scene man)
  
  Jan 30
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balleteunuch

i was a virgin until i was 32, (currently 42) know as a eunuch (can't how sex) i only had sex once before my operation stopped that, sex is very special to each of us, but for me, keeping your virginity is one of those special things that a men i guess would love to have, but its your body, there are other ways of have sexual fun, without peneration, as i have has to discovery

Nov 15, 2012
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ambroseguy80

I also went through twelve years of Catholic school where they told us sex should be saved for marriage. lol I was a virgin until I was 31, which is almost unheard of for a guy! Here I am, fifteen years later, married with four children! Keep up the good work, amanecer!

Nov 14, 2012
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cookiesoke

20 y/o but it is not by choice. its because i am unattractive. however i dont mind being a virgin. i dont really consider myself a virgin and dont really value my virginity. becasue if i did lose it i will love and respect my vagina regardless. im glad you stuck to what you believed and what you felt was right

Nov 6, 2012
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- HarmonicesMundi
  You are not ugly; ugly is not you.
  
  Nov 11, 2012
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ravenblue90

I am a virgin as well, though I am 22, I feel like I am a freak sometimes. Most of my friends have had sex before. They think it is odd that I have not chosen to have sex yet, but the reality is, I have never met anyone I would consider having sex with. I do not think I could lose it to a one night stand (who would want a virgin for a one night stand?!?!?) and I have never been in a relationship that has lasted longer than 3 months. I surround myself with people who sparkle so much brighter than me and I think I am rarely noticed because of it. I think this makes me unlovable and therefore I will likely be a virgin for the rest of my life. There is nothing wrong with that if it is your choice, but it hurts to think about when it is not.

Oct 20, 2012
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- kiicha
  Hi,
  Why should you feel like a freak because you're a virgin?? Thats ridiculous..
  I can understand that when ur surrounded with people that find it odd, and arnt virgins anymore, that you might start questioning yourself.. but what have they proven?? what do you gain by losing your virginitly? a throphy?
  I think you should be happy and proud that your still a virgin, thousands of girls/boys wish they still had their virginity so they could give it to someone special..
  :)
  
  Dec 18, 2012
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ABCDEF7

did you ever regret of your decision, or thought you must have married earlier.

Oct 15, 2012
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stlmo8

I hope you don't plan on having children. Perimenopause is looming. You do realize that many men will avoid you because you're still a virgin; is it possible there's something you're afraid of, and that's why you've clung to this for so long?

Oct 14, 2012
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mailme09

I am also 43 and virgin.

Oct 14, 2012
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wayneinhouston

You have been fed a line of crap since you were a little girl, and look what it has gotten you. You're proud of something everyone else thinks is pitiful . . . (weather they say it or not, that's what they think).

Oct 8, 2012
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- cookiesoke
  F*** off. its important to her. who cares what everyone thinks.
  
  Nov 6, 2012
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- girlfun7777
  I'm with cookiesoke. If I or any anyone else who got what they wanted out of life gave a crap about what everyone else thought about we did or didn't do we'd'd be in misery. Life is to be live how the individual believes not someone else. There's only two people that matter here, amanecer and her future husband. That's it. "Everyone" (which really isnt' everyone) else can jump off that bridge with "everyone" else.
  
  Nov 13, 2012
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- ambroseguy80
  Great job for sticking up for amanecer.... not that she needed it!
  
  Nov 14, 2012
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henfab

Its great you are still virgin.When I married my wife she was 30 and still virgin. This is the best gift what woman can give to husband.

Oct 5, 2012
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yassinmuslim

Sorry but you are not so old, and i am sure you will find your prince soon!

Aug 26, 2012
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nycgal19

36 female jewish virgin here...always been too shy... but I really want to meet someone. I wish it was easier to find that guy for me.

Aug 19, 2012
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Smileandbehappy

As a teenager, I think it is absolutely fantastic to read your story and so many comments. Im getting a purity ring soon and I am proud to say I'm a virgin, yes I'm a young teenager but there are people my age who've had sex. I will never have sex before marriage, true love waits. Many of my peers think its crazy how firm I am in my beliefs, but I'm not going to change to "conform with society".

So thank you to all of you, for reminding me its ok to wait, and just because everyone else isn't means that's the right thing. The world needs more people like you!

Aug 13, 2012
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- danielm85948
  well said ,well done, there is leaders being the virgins, and the sheep as i like to call them,that do not have a mind of there own,so then like to be the same as others virgins can never be followers true love can wait.
  
  Aug 13, 2012
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Unique4real

Way to go and say as at 33 and still a virgin always make all thinks a hell you are joking, but i chose that and will never regret it ever.I hope that your prince of charm will come your way and that you will enjoy every second of it.

Aug 13, 2012
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- danielm85948
  well done true love can wait,i think to lose it, must be something to remember, not forget,i also think one night stands ,are doing people a lot of damage,the relationship are being affected by doing so, so they end up with boyfriends/girlfriends so it affects both male and female ,strange as it may seem as the worlds oldest living male virgin 60 in three weeks i seems to have an insight in to what is wrong in peoples relationships funny that and as i have heard many times as most virgins have you must be gay,well this was why i first went on tv back in 1999 to say I am not gay ,and have very strong views on gays and have said so many times,and people did not like it,as i am from the old school were gays were jailed so i cant change that view.
  
  Aug 13, 2012
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- Unique4real
  I never had any issues for being a virgin as when it will happen will happen and if never so what as i am not like sex addict or like sex hunter so i never care if died a virgin or had sex as that is all when time comes will know what will happen.
  
  Aug 13, 2012
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faiz2001me

when are you planing to lose it?

Aug 13, 2012
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88888888e

Me too and sometimes I feel bad, or simply I never going to be with a guy am 33

Jul 17, 2012
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Saskiarose

I am 27 and also still a virgin , I am sometimes ashamed of it but , sometimes I ma just really glad to still be a virgin :)

Jul 16, 2012
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- nhs14324
  nothing to b ashamed of ...i am 29 and still a virgin waiting for marriage
  
  Aug 19, 2012
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- nebulous123
  Also 27 and the same :)
  
  Sep 9, 2012
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kidcurry92

Don't worry about it at all!! Be proud!

Nothing weird but I am 19 male. My name is Aakash Trivedi. I live in California. Idk where you live but I was wondering if I could give you my number? WE could just talk about anything. I can give compliments and try to make you laugh if you are feeling down? Or if you are bored or lonely? And If you want to vent/rant about anything, I am here haha. 1 408 772 8919. You are very beautiful and it would be fun to talk with you. Text or call me? Just make sure you tell me who you are lol. Just trying to be friendly and to show that we love you :) BIG HUGS :)

Jun 5, 2012
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nightman420

33 years old, Never Kissed, Never had sex. Not really by choice though. Just never had enough confidence to get past the first kiss. It didn't happen, the moment passed and the relationship ended. 15 years have gone by since then. Not sure I will ever have a partner. Being picked on and made fun of all through school has crippled me and I hold a lot of anger as a result. The only thing I wanted out of life was someone to love, but most times in this life we don't get what we want.

Jun 4, 2012
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- nebulous123
  Please try not to see yourself as a cripple. If you had a partner before, you can have one again. I'm sorry you're angry. I am angry too sometimes. Sometimes I'm not sure either. But I can say that the more I've just kissed for the sake of it..or because I didn't have courage to say no...or because I felt "hey why not," the more confidence I gain in waiting...because I realize some guys can't kiss for **** and I need to have some sort of connection to feel sparks from a kiss.
  
  Sep 9, 2012
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- nightman420
  Thanks nebulous123. hopefully I will have a partner again, I have tried in all the years since but to no avail. Women usually ignore me or put me in the friend zone. But I just tell myself that those aren't the kind of women I want anyway. Thinking back on my high school relationship I realize that it didn't happen due to some other factors. One being that we were never alone on our dates cause her mom always had her little sisters tag along. I felt almost like I was in the big brother program rather than dating. Second reason is that I got a vibe from her that felt off, like she wasn't really physically attracted to me. I mean, if she wanted it to happen wouldn't she have pushed a little to help me along? I have had a long time to analyze it and in the end I am glad that I did not end up with her. She just wasn't a good fit for me anyway. I think that with the right woman, I can overcome my fear. I just got to find her.
  
  Sep 9, 2012
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aaawhyme

I am not religious in any way, but I'm a virgin too. I don't really see the point in it, nor do I think I'll ever be with someone, even if I want to. I'm too socially awkward to find anyone willing enough to not do anything of that sort with me, and stay with me. When I tell people I'm a virgin, or have never really had a long lasting (non internet) boyfriend, they are surprised - only then, does being a virgin get to me.

Jun 1, 2012
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Mozart7

Me too! proud of you all,. 43 that's very good. If I were you I would go on a trip to celibrate each brithday. Who knows you mite meet the special person. God Bless you

May 23, 2012
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kidcurry92

Nothing weird but I am 19 male. My name is Aakash Trivedi. I am from California. I am pretty sure that you are a sweet, intelligent, and beautiful woman and I would love to maybe give you my number? We can just talk and chat about anything. Any problems, just tell me. If you ever feel bored or lonely? Again, nothing weird hahahaha. 1 408 772 8919. Text or call maybe? Just tell me who you are haha

May 13, 2012
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conservativepinay31

proud to be virgin...im still virgin at 31 never touch never been kissed.. dont judge for that.. i still waiting the right guy..

May 12, 2012
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TeardropAngeL77

Wow i am so proud of you! Nice going:-)

Apr 13, 2012
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