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Still a Virgin At 43

I used to worry about being so old and still being a virgin.  I know how important it is to me.  Sometimes I am really sad about it, but most of the time I wouldn't have it any other way.  In a way, I still have a naive romantic side to me, waiting for my (old) prince charming to rescue me.  At this point in my life, I just don't worry about it.  I am proud of it.  My friends know it and respect me for it.  I grew up going to a catholic school from grade 1 thru 12.  They always talked about the importance of saving yourself for your husband, although my junior and senior year, I think about one third of the girls were pregnant.  I always wanted a reason to go on a honeymoon.  If I am not a virgin, why have a honeymoon?  That is just a vacation at that point.  I can honestly say that I have never had an STD, never had to worry about being pregnant.  I also think it is REALLY funny telling people I am a virgin.  People just don't believe it anymore that a person can still be a virgin at my age.  Well, Here I am - and proud of it!
amanecer amanecer 41-45, F 52 Responses Sep 24, 2007

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I am a 55yr old virgin.

TBH I have to show respect your a roll model to me

HA HA. you think it is really funny telling folks you are a virgin cause they dont believe it......Imagine the response i get then. I am 68 &still a virgin & MALE. Tis funny though.

Whats with this amp amp business man?

and amp.

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I remember you saying this about 15 years ago.........WHAT HAPPENED?

15 years ago? It wasn't my casting but I'm probably not the first casting director to cast something in this space. If you'd like some more information on the show I'd love to chat with you. Just shoot me an email at RelationshipRetreatCasting (at) gmail (dot) com and I'll send you my phone number.

Good for you, be proud. I'm am a virgin too.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Life is NOT about who you give it to or whether or not you're a virgin. I'm quite annoyed by how sensitive and overly dramatic people are about sex. Just kind of makes you think many people are nothing or weak without it. Older virgins tend to be pitied or as if they need help and I'm just tired of it. I'm 27 and still a virgin. Pretty sure I'll stay one for a long time.

I never thought this is possible or likely to happen, but if you are okay with it, if you are proud of it, then who cares! :))

Go back to your little bubble then!

I just turned 43 and I'm a virgin.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

I'm pretty sure that had I not married I would still be a virgin - certainly that was my intention !

You have to know for yourself your true reasons for maintaining your virginity. There are many people who have either had a bad experience in the past, or those who have waiting so long, that "being a virgin" is an avoidance technique,and sometimes rises from a built-up, unfounded "fear," of sorts. It might be worth having a discussion with a counselor. At your age, I would see your status as more of a liability than an asset, and there's a long way between having sex a few times and being "slutty."

Some of us dont have any say in the matter due to social phobia (loveshyness etc)

now a male virgin at 61 and still proud, as we all should be .

short reply no i don't.and i don't have a cane.

Or a lawn???

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

now 62

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I thought me at 38 was pretty old.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Thats impressive and honourable. One day a prince charming may 'rescue' you till then may your dignity keep you warm :)

Virgin at 16 but I don't believe in sex before engagement

I am proud of you too. I am now 67yrs. and a virgin also very happy. I to use to thank it was funney to tell people, but now I have lots of new friends that are virgins men and women. We are to enjoy life and sex is not always fun. A lot of pain and kids with no mom or dad. Lots of hugs

How would you know "sex is not always fun" if you've never had it? Surely you don't go by word-of-mouth opinion on life's experiences.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Did you ever feel bad about it during your 20's or 30's???

Oh and by the way, it takes such courage to be like you

Im proud to be a virgin at 39 too. And Like you people don't believe me , so I say nothing . But the Lord knows and he keeps me.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Wow finally a woman that won't cheat on me I need to get to know you young lady

wow.... we r really impressed..

I am proud of you.

I don't know if you're proud of it or trying to justify it to yourself. There's nothing to be proud of really, but at the same time there's nothing to be ashamed of.

LETS FACE IT people look at sex through rose tinted glasses only seeing the nice clean sanitized version. When in reality it must be smelly & messy. (not my scene man)

I also went through twelve years of Catholic school where they told us sex should be saved for marriage. lol I was a virgin until I was 31, which is almost unheard of for a guy! Here I am, fifteen years later, married with four children! Keep up the good work, amanecer!

20 y/o but it is not by choice. its because i am unattractive. however i dont mind being a virgin. i dont really consider myself a virgin and dont really value my virginity. becasue if i did lose it i will love and respect my vagina regardless. im glad you stuck to what you believed and what you felt was right

You are not ugly; ugly is not you.

I am a virgin as well, though I am 22, I feel like I am a freak sometimes. Most of my friends have had sex before. They think it is odd that I have not chosen to have sex yet, but the reality is, I have never met anyone I would consider having sex with. I do not think I could lose it to a one night stand (who would want a virgin for a one night stand?!?!?) and I have never been in a relationship that has lasted longer than 3 months. I surround myself with people who sparkle so much brighter than me and I think I am rarely noticed because of it. I think this makes me unlovable and therefore I will likely be a virgin for the rest of my life. There is nothing wrong with that if it is your choice, but it hurts to think about when it is not.

Hi,
Why should you feel like a freak because you're a virgin?? Thats ridiculous..
I can understand that when ur surrounded with people that find it odd, and arnt virgins anymore, that you might start questioning yourself.. but what have they proven?? what do you gain by losing your virginitly? a throphy?

I think you should be happy and proud that your still a virgin, thousands of girls/boys wish they still had their virginity so they could give it to someone special..

:)

did you ever regret of your decision, or thought you must have married earlier.

I hope you don't plan on having children. Perimenopause is looming. You do realize that many men will avoid you because you're still a virgin; is it possible there's something you're afraid of, and that's why you've clung to this for so long?

I am also 43 and virgin.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

You have been fed a line of crap since you were a little girl, and look what it has gotten you. You're proud of something everyone else thinks is pitiful . . . (weather they say it or not, that's what they think).

F*** off. its important to her. who cares what everyone thinks.

I'm with cookiesoke. If I or any anyone else who got what they wanted out of life gave a crap about what everyone else thought about we did or didn't do we'd'd be in misery. Life is to be live how the individual believes not someone else. There's only two people that matter here, amanecer and her future husband. That's it. "Everyone" (which really isnt' everyone) else can jump off that bridge with "everyone" else.

Great job for sticking up for amanecer.... not that she needed it!

Its great you are still virgin.When I married my wife she was 30 and still virgin. This is the best gift what woman can give to husband.

Sorry but you are not so old, and i am sure you will find your prince soon!

But i wouldn't count on it!

36 female jewish virgin here...always been too shy... but I really want to meet someone. I wish it was easier to find that guy for me.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

As a teenager, I think it is absolutely fantastic to read your story and so many comments. Im getting a purity ring soon and I am proud to say I'm a virgin, yes I'm a young teenager but there are people my age who've had sex. I will never have sex before marriage, true love waits. Many of my peers think its crazy how firm I am in my beliefs, but I'm not going to change to "conform with society". <br />
So thank you to all of you, for reminding me its ok to wait, and just because everyone else isn't means that's the right thing. The world needs more people like you!

well said ,well done, there is leaders being the virgins, and the sheep as i like to call them,that do not have a mind of there own,so then like to be the same as others virgins can never be followers true love can wait.

Me too and sometimes I feel bad, or simply I never going to be with a guy am 33

I am 27 and also still a virgin , I am sometimes ashamed of it but , sometimes I ma just really glad to still be a virgin :)

nothing to b ashamed of ...i am 29 and still a virgin waiting for marriage

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Also 27 and the same :)

Don't worry about it at all!! Be proud!<br />
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33 years old, Never Kissed, Never had sex. Not really by choice though. Just never had enough confidence to get past the first kiss. It didn't happen, the moment passed and the relationship ended. 15 years have gone by since then. Not sure I will ever have a partner. Being picked on and made fun of all through school has crippled me and I hold a lot of anger as a result. The only thing I wanted out of life was someone to love, but most times in this life we don't get what we want.

Please try not to see yourself as a cripple. If you had a partner before, you can have one again. I'm sorry you're angry. I am angry too sometimes. Sometimes I'm not sure either. But I can say that the more I've just kissed for the sake of it..or because I didn't have courage to say no...or because I felt "hey why not," the more confidence I gain in waiting...because I realize some guys can't kiss for **** and I need to have some sort of connection to feel sparks from a kiss.

Thanks nebulous123. hopefully I will have a partner again, I have tried in all the years since but to no avail. Women usually ignore me or put me in the friend zone. But I just tell myself that those aren't the kind of women I want anyway. Thinking back on my high school relationship I realize that it didn't happen due to some other factors. One being that we were never alone on our dates cause her mom always had her little sisters tag along. I felt almost like I was in the big brother program rather than dating. Second reason is that I got a vibe from her that felt off, like she wasn't really physically attracted to me. I mean, if she wanted it to happen wouldn't she have pushed a little to help me along? I have had a long time to analyze it and in the end I am glad that I did not end up with her. She just wasn't a good fit for me anyway. I think that with the right woman, I can overcome my fear. I just got to find her.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

I am not religious in any way, but I'm a virgin too. I don't really see the point in it, nor do I think I'll ever be with someone, even if I want to. I'm too socially awkward to find anyone willing enough to not do anything of that sort with me, and stay with me. When I tell people I'm a virgin, or have never really had a long lasting (non internet) boyfriend, they are surprised - only then, does being a virgin get to me.

Me too! proud of you all,. 43 that's very good. If I were you I would go on a trip to celibrate each brithday. Who knows you mite meet the special person. God Bless you

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proud to be virgin...im still virgin at 31 never touch never been kissed.. dont judge for that.. i still waiting the right guy..

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

Wow i am so proud of you! Nice going:-)

I am still that way and 37 and until last year not bothered about it only as most on here will know I have found myself in a situation with a man and I know the right thing to do as he is married is not to cross the line and go to bed with him as that would turn what we have from an emotional affair into a full extra marital affair and we have discussed it and we have agreed what we have is fine but I have to admit there are times when I think may be one day but then I remember why it can not happen.

Hi, I'm working on a wonderful project about couples who haven't done IT yet, for whatever reason. We're working with the best relationship therapists in the country. Please message me for more details.

I may not be at that age but am proud of you guys,not for abstinence but for being aliens and not robots.I am a virgin to but i think it takes people who think for themselves rather than give in to pressure to get to where you are.Really proud of you.

I don't believe it is a vacation. Being with someone on an intimate level is one of the greatest gifts you can have and share with someone. I think it is important to share it with the right person. I didn't limit myself and I tried love. It didn't work out. You don't know that when you go in. But, when I realized that this person isn't the person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I got out and gave myself time to be with myself. I dated women but I wasn't a playboy. I found the love of my life in a grocery store. She was shopping and I just knew I had to meet her. She was beautiful and still is. We are not married because she doesn't want to be married. She had a very bad divorce and doesn't want to get married again. I respect that. I love her dearly and we are everything to each other in every sense of the word. We know each other in the Godly way. I'm not a young man but I am old enough and wise enough to be happy with what life has given me because if I had put limits on the relationship, I would not have the one I have with the woman I love. I don't want any other woman.

thought i would do an update ,all of us have one thing in common,we are all older virgins,we are the leaders and not the sheep,we lead and the rest fallow ,hold your heads up high,and be proud,i will be the worlds oldest living male virgin at 59 in three days ,we all need to be proud that we have morals and standards,and that is something to be proud of.

It is great to see people with such high principles. Very rare these days.<br />
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Stay the course. I know, from my own experience, how it feels to wait. We are special people, despite what society might say with its faddish philosophy.

Bolenien, you should be proud of having enough respect for yourself to leave a dishonest, selfish person and move on. And I'm sure that when you remarry -- to a man that both loves and deserves you -- you'll be proud of being a virgin on your wedding night.

I'm also at a virgin at 43, but I would say it is not a matter of choice but a matter of destiny. I got married to man who I think is gay and maybe not capable of having sexual intercourse (impotent). I asked him, but he denied both but his behaviour had proven it otherwise. I'm also a Catholic so I don't sleep around for the sake of satisfying the urge. I believe that it should be done when there is real love, respect, and trust for each other. Unfortunately, I haven't been in love again after my separation with my husband. I almost did however I discovered that he couldn't be trusted. I am not really proud of being a virgin but I am proud of not succumbing to the pressure just to conform with what they say is the "norms of society."

Count me in too -- at 45. I've seen it all -- people who've died from HIV, the heartbreak of infertility due to an STD that led to a couple's divorce...you name it. Although I don't tell most people -- or dates, for that matter -- I did tell this one guy I dated who seemed insistent that I end-up in his bed. It wasn't until I told him that I'm with the "until-you-say-I-do-I-don't" crowd and that there was no way we were going to end up in bed that he finally confessed to havng genital Herpes II ! Of course he had no qualms about not telling his lovers about his incurable "a condom won't help" condition, and didn't see the need to take Valtrex!

while at 59 i am britains oldist male virgin.and i am proud of what i am .the last TV show i did was in nov 08 so i do not mind telling people i am.so be proud.

amanecer,<br />
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I'm a female virgin near your age so we have allot in common.

wow still a virgin at 43, there is nothing wrong with that, if you have decided to wait until marrage to go on your honeymoon. well if you can accept it and be proud of it, I guess it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks about it.