I Should Get Out More, But...

I'm worst than that, because I'm an Aspie

You said it well...

You are right, Laurie. I plan to at least take some kind of class. A job will have to wait until my youngest is in school full time.

I find it difficult to communicate anywhere whether in real life or online.

That is exactly it. It is so much easier for me to communicate things here.

I can really relate to this. I'm shy, too, and with online friendships, there is no awkwardness or lack of something to say. Also, chatting with friends online allows you to carry on several conversations at once and have adequate time to think before responding.

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oh no! lol how on earth did you concentrate?!

I was quite sure while presenting that my tie was sticking out my fly.

I am the same way geetar. I mostly comment. That is why EP feels so freeing to me. I actually will start conversations without hesitation. Those kinds of people make me feel very quiet also.



I am not, however, fine in front of an audience. I freeze, big time! And turn the darkest red! lol

2000 people! Methinks I would faint in that situation...blush, then faint! :P

I tend to hang back in a crowd as well and prefer one-on-one conversations. I enjoy small groups but used to feel painfully shy in large groups. I am not one to keep the conversation going though and need to bounce off of other people's comments. I hate that about me. In large groups there is usually one boisterous, belligerent personality and those people tend to make me very quiet (I think because I am not good at the snappy comeback and tend to end up feeling foolish if called out).

I am fine at presentations though and being in front of an audience where I know the topic. My largest one was in front of 2000 people.

thanks outercalm. I often hope someone else will make the first move, because I almost always automatically relax. I should just try saying hi. One little word, and it may soften situations. :)



Maisie...I totally get that. Small talk is so hard, and can feel so phony. And crowds...no thanks. Sometimes I will just listen to people in a group, and they will be exchanging small talk and I observe that it can sound so fake. After a while of being the observer, I think you can see it for what it is on most occasions.



It doesn't sound rude and cold at all karumbey. I can totally relate.

I also don't like small talk very much Maisie. A good night is when I connect with a person, we retreat to a quiet corner away from the masses, and share our life stories, secrets and all. Otherwise, it is depressing, and feels like I wasted a bunch of time doing nothing with a bunch of people. Meh, that probably sounds rude or cold, but I am just more interested in truth rather than social dances.

A speaker at a conference claimed most people in social situations feel the same way, that most of us are nervous and just waiting for the other person to make the first move. I try to remember that and when I do it doesn't feel like such a drain. Unfortunately I often forget it myself and am not usually very outgoing.



I have found there to be some truth to it though, even surprisingly so of people I thought were popular and very outgoing who later confessed they feel that way in social situations too. It has helped me, maybe it can help you also.

that is exactly how it feels karumbey....like a huge energy drain. It takes so much effort to try and come out of my shell in RL situations that I just feel exhausted afterwards. *sigh* I have decided, though, that I am going to try harder, or I really will end up some kind of total recluse.



stardate....2050....2 kids walking by an old house... "isn't that where the old lady with all the cats lives? nobody has ever seen her outside!"

:P

Me too. I find that I can interact here much more than in real life, as I don't experience the huge energy drain with online socializing. I need to get out more too :)

Since I stopped drinking I have also stopped going to parties were I didn’t know anyone. can relate to a few people though. Ha! I can relate to Mid Wives though. They all are from the same clan!...DD