Been Through All The Emotions!I lost my wife after a massive heart attack in the middle of the night. Nov 23rd,2011. Feeling hurt, betrayed, mad, selfish, hate and without a doubt...loneliness, is all normal. We were only married for 7 years, but were the best years of my life. Everyday, i review the past...the night of her death and where i'm going today....and it plays like a movie. I think about all the all the great times, and any arguments we had. I wouldn't give up any of that. We made us...and i'm thankful for the short time that we had. We were deeply in love, traveled all over, bought our first house together and did not have a care in the world. We have amazing friends and family.I give this love out more now then ever. THe best advice i can give is this...
Share the love you had with each other and give it to the world.
Don't stop doing things you did together.This is a big one. THe first time repeating things you did together will hurt like hell. Get them done!!!
Start the new you. Its the alone you. Do things you thought about doing. Go on a trip, paint the bedroom, and so on.
Stay focused on responsibilities. This is big one too. Feeling like you have some control, is huge.
The biggest DONT!!!! DONT pull the curtains shut. Don't Stock up on Vodka. DONT stop working. DONT stop paying bills. DONT shut people out of your life.
Get out of that house. Share your love with friends and family. You deserve that...and so do they. Your spouse would want that very much! God bless you and i'm a friend if you need one.
Toddinseattle 46-50, M 2 Responses 0 Jan 20, 2013