Does It Ever Get Easier...?

hey all,

so its going to be four years since I lost my dear husband on February 18th. as Im sitting here and trying to get my mind off of my worries all I can think about is my little girls who miss a father that they never got to my heart breaks when my 5 yr old says mummy I miss daddy,, what am I to do. life has been so hard...

tm4evz tm4evz
31-35, F
4 Responses Feb 8, 2013

My heart goes out to you all. I hope you all find someone that replaces the pain and eases the burden. I lost my ex 4 years ago and it nearly killed me. My whole view on life has chanced dramatically and i'm just learning again to let people in. I must admit it is very difficult to do and hope everthing works out for you all.

It doesn't get easier. My husband has been gone two years now. My father a year this past december. It is hard especially with children. My son is in counseling and having issues in school. My ternage daughter just keeps it all bottled up and refuses to talk to anyone. There are good days where we laugh and joke and them there are bad days. There is never a day that goes by that you don't miss them. I am trying to move forward and allow someone into my life. We are taking things slow but i hope it is also showing my children that it is okay to trust someone new and someone new can care about them too. I cry in the shower everyday it helps a little.

As hard as it sounds i dont think it does get easier, but you do learn to live with it , my husband died four years ago as well and i feel numb most of the time, i am nervous about my life and stress about my kids, even thinking of another relationship frightens me, i survived this once i dont think i could ever do it again

My heart goes out to you as I read your account, sorry for your loss. It can be tremendously difficult raising children by yourself. You are in the right place to express your feeling. There will be support.