What Now My Love?

And in so much pain that I cannot even bring myself to write about "The Loss" as it has only been five months.

It would be lovely to just correspond with people that have similar experiences. Let's be real here, it's not the gory details of what they passed away from: cancer, heart attack or the like.

What matters is that we have been left behind, to grieve. I speak for myself, of course, when I say that my life will never be the same again.

Each of us has our own unique story, and each of us longs for a unique individual that has gone on to learn other lessons; and who is no longer on this plane to be with us in the physical sense ever again.




Harel Harel
4 Responses Feb 21, 2009

A friend of mine is drinking alcohol. I tell him not to drink, he laughs. I tell him to take an aspirin in order not to get drunk. He says what is the use of drinking if not for getting drunk.<br />
This makes me to become more cautious in giving advice.<br />
I see that the world is so simple: either suffering with material attachment or enjoying abiding joy in the spiritual realm. So I call people to consider this matter, but nobody cares. So, what should I do?

I know how you are feeling.I also know that you have heard that from so many people and really they don't. I lost my husband eight years ago after fifty one years of married life and I know that you feel your heart has broken in half.<br />
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That bond between you no matter how long you were together is so special that you cannot fathom life without him.<br />
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I would just like to tell you that it gets easier to bare with time. I will not tell you it goes away but you will find peace and you will chuckle over past memories.<br />
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My heart goes out to you all

Six months here, Harel; agreed entirely. Others here have spoken of the pain of sudden loss, or of long and painful roads that left both a sense of relief and of unrecoverable failure.<br />
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We are different now from others who have not lost their spouses -- at least on this plane -- and it is comforting to share when and what we can. Wishing you peace -- <br />
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I'm sorry for your loss. I'd like to lend comforting words but for things like this there is little I can tell you that would make you feel any better. For a long time after my girl died I was completely numb. I couldn't feel...anything, and now all I feel is the pain of her passing. I'd like to think that things will get better but these things are never predictable and everyone deas with it in a different way. I sincerely hope that you are stronger than I am and can one day move on, or at least find the strength in you to keep trying to move one. Good luck