In a Moment My Life Was Forever Changed.
Posted April 18th, 2009 at 2:04AM
Steven and I had known from the start that we were to be together . After 10 years of living without each other we married on October 26 2007 . After praying for a baby I became Pregnant in May of 08...My third His first. We bought a house and had every thing we ever wanted..... Steven was trying to come home to us during hurricane IKE and hit a tree and was killed instantly...the day before we had found out that I was going to give him a daughter.....Harper. He never got to see his only child and she looks just like her daddy that I miss so much.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I am a widow too. My husband also died suddenly, I know how you feel ,it is very hard to get over. Only time will help people tell me.My husband died in '07 and I am still grieving.
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i am sorry for your loss too my husband died last may and its so hard to recover ,, he died unexpectantly he was my life and was such a wonderful person
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I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
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God Bless You.
I lost my husband too. He was my everything because I had no family. My famliy were abusive nut cases. My husband was murdered over 10 yrs ago and I still miss him. I never got to say good bye and sometimes I still ask God.....................WHY??? He was a wonderful person who never hurt anyone in his life.
Things get better with time, but you NEVER forget, nor should you.
Hugs..........................JOYCE -
God Bless You.
I lost my husband too. He was my everything because I had no family. My famliy were abusive nut cases. My husband was murdered over 10 yrs ago and I still miss him. I never got to say good bye and sometimes I still ask God.....................WHY??? He was a wonderful person who never hurt anyone in his life.
Things get better with time, but you NEVER forget, nor should you.
Hugs..........................JOYCE -
I have never been a widow, and five years as an isolated single parent only gives me a little understanding. I hope you heal healthy, so that eventually you will live a satisfying and enjoyable life.
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So sorry hon. I am a young widow, widowed for two years. Hang in there and God bless
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So very sorry to hear of your lost I am a recent widow and life is very tough but I am sure he is still "with" you looking out for you thank God you have your wonderful kids I have great family support too thank goodness orchid1
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That is so sad. I'm really sorry for your loss. But he does live on in his child, sort of. I know nothing can make up for your loss but perhaps thinking of this will help a little. I hope you will feel better eventually.
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I can't imagine how you feel or felt.
but i wish the very best in life for you and you know your husband will always be with you and your daughter. -
Hi there, am so sorry for your loss. I was widowed nearly 4 years ago at 36, with 3 very young children also..(9, 2 and 9months) Life just throws us curve balls sometimes doesnt it? but what can you do but plod on...and there are days that I still think..."how did I end up here without him..raising our kids by myself" Time definately helps adjust to a new life but you dont forget at all...you kind of just adjust...hope your doing ok :)
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I have been a widow for 11 months and 15 days. I accidently washed a teddy bear I gave him on his death bed and the stuffing came out. I filled it with his last pair of socks he had on filled with the hair from his last hair cut and a picture of us. I feel like he is with me again!
Dreama -
I'm sorry for your loss
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I am sorry for your loss.
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TO ALL THE WIDOWS OUT THERE - I AM SO SORRY YOU HAVE TO SUFFER SUCH A SAD LOSS OF A PARTNER, FRIEND, OR LOVER, MY HEART GOES OUT TO YOU ALL.
SO MANY PEOPLE GOING THROUGH THE SAME EMOTIONS LOOSING A LOVED ONE IS NOT EASY... NEVER FORGET THE LOVE AND FRIENDSHIP OF THE PERSON THAT PASSED ON --- AS KEEP THERE MEMORIES ALIVE ON EP - THEY EVEN BECOME SPECIAL TO US READING YOUR STORIES. "BURN A CANDLE WHEN YOU THINK OF THEM" --- THIS IS SUCH A SAD PAGE... BUT IF EVER YOU NEED TO TALK (I WILL TRY MY BEST TO COMFORT YOU ALL) ... YOU ALL VERY STRONG!!! MAKES ME THINK OF MY ACTIONS AT TIMES I SHOULD VALUE WHAT I HAVE AND WORK DAILY ON MY RELATIONSHIP AND SAY SORRY MORE OFTEN - LESS FIGHTING AND MORE LOVING IS MY GOAL NOW... THANK YOU FOR OPENING MY EYES TO RELATIONSHIPS AND VALUES... -
Words do not even begin to express how moved I was by your tragedy. I don't know if you are a spiritual person or not, but I will pray for you and your family.
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My first husband--my soul mate the love of my life---died young. I married again and have had a full and blessed life. I am here to enjoy my four children, my seven grandchildren and so far 3 great grand children....does all of this change my feelings for my first husband....no ---but I have come to understand that he and I had to separate --we both had to learn and experience things that we could not have done together.....God Willing --we may meet again in another time---in another place.
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omg this has got to be one of the saddest stories i've ever heard. finding the love of your life & then to lose them, but i believe we mingle lives over & over. we choose those that we're to spend our eternities with and somehow find one another.
i believe you will be together again. you may never know that it's him, but the love and joy you feel will carry on in them.
i know it's not something that everyone believes in, but having just found that you were pregnant with his first and only child the day before.....just maybe his daughter needed his spirit to live....
only time will tell and her spirit & love and innate personality will answer your life's question.
but don't let this be your defining moment dear. you obviously have a lot of love to share and some day when you're ready....someone will walk into your life to share theirs with you.
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i'm so so so sorry :[
reading about everyones
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This sounds just a little too much like a Harlequin romance novel to me. I am so sorry you lost the man you love. Life sometimes asks the impossible of us. If it makes you feel any better I have never been in love, have never had a relationship, can never have children, have blistering panic attacks every day, have no friends, can't hold a job due to social phobia, severe suicidal depression, etc. I know you're in pain but please look on the bright side. You have a beautiful daughter to love and some wonderful memories. You have a mind and body that works properly and you can always meet someone else and fall in love again after awhile. You have a bright future and a tragic past... that sounds like a life well lived to me. Things could be a lost worse. :)
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(Even though it's been around a year, saw this on the front page) Oh, that's horrible! I'm sorry for you and your child(rens) loss.
*hugs*
Nina -
That is really sad and I am so sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I am also a pregnant widow. I lost my husband to a sudden heart attack 1 month ago, two weeks before that we found out we were having a baby girl to be born in December of this year. I am trying to make sense of this since he was so happy to finally start a finally and so many wonderful things were happening in our life. I am trying to find strength and sanity in knowing that I will always have a part of him with me through our baby girl, it hurts beyond words to know that he will never hold her or be the proud papa showing her off in the hospital after I deliver. May we find some sort of solice in God and live life one day at a time.
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Nardon,
I am truly sorry for your loss...It hits me too close to home!!!! I would love to help if you need some one to talk to. I do not get on here much unless I get an email....If you would like to correspond thru email just reply back to this comment and I will gladly give you my e-mail....you are in my thoughts and prayers!!! -
My name is Nicole, and on January 5th, 2010, my husband of almost 8 years died suddenly and unexpectedly of a heart attack at the age of 28, unfortunately, in front of our then 2 yr old daughter. Here it is, almost 11 months out in just a few days, and yes, I have started dating again. An amazing man came into my life, and I feel very very blessed to have him here. The wonderful thing is that he knows that I'm still greiving my husband, and he's ok with that, and is right there when I need a shoulder to cry on. He was a mutual friend of ours and we had lost contact with him a few years back, but out of the blue, he messaged me on facebook asking why my husband wasn't responding to his friend request. When I told him why, he was very upset, and asked if I wanted to go out for coffee and talk about it, so I agreed. I really feel that Mark brought him into mine and my daughter's life, knowing that we needed a good man to take care of us. I am now 7 weeks pregnant. I'm completely happy about it, just not sure how to go about telling my family. I'm sure my mom and dad will be ok about it, just not sure how my in-laws will take it. I'm here today to say that it is ok to go on with your life. There are so many nay sayers out there who have never gone through what we have, and have no clue what it's like to lose their husband or wife...don't even give their words a second thought. You do what you feel is right for you. That's what I did, and I'm very glad! I love Mark. I will ALWAYS love Mark. The new man in my life isn't Mark. He doesn't take the pain away completely, but he makes it easier to bear with.
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my heart goes out to you,i lost my dear dear wife ayear ago on the 6th jan i to diddn't get the chance to say goodby and this still cuts like a knife,but if it's any help i try not think of the bad things and try to remember the good times and know i am begining to remember with a smile as it should be.
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Hi! My name is Mariam! I am 28 years old and lost my husband on 2/6/2011 at the age of 35. He had a enlarge heart and didnt even know it. I was five months pregnant at the time. My husband meant everything to me and he was a man of love. We would have been married 5years next month (March 25, 2011). He was soo excited about us being pregnant with our first child. The next day after my husband funeral my water broke and being that I wasnt 24 weeks my child didn't survive. I gave birth to my son on Valentine's day. It really does hurt but my question is how do you put the pieces of the puzzle back together? I am a christian and I know that in time the hurt will heal! I never question God but just need some understanding.
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hello my name is chontea and I read your story and it sounds very similar to mines. I have been wanting to speak with someone who has been where I am in my life. If you could get in touch with me as i would love to talk about the lost of my dear husband. Thanks again. My email is chontea@gmail.com
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I am so terribly sorry for your losses. I feel deeply for all of you, and especially Mariam above, having lost both her husband and her unborn baby. I can relate to most of the above posts, because my fiance' passed away unexpectedly 11 months ago, in a supposed accident in the mountains, but there are many unanswered questions and I'm certain that is not what happened to him. I truly believe and know in my heart that his "friend" accidentally killed him and then covered it up to stay out of trouble. We have a son who was 2 1/2 years old at the time, who misses his daddy so much, it breaks my heart, and he doesn't understand why daddy hasn't come back yet. I try to explain truthfully what happened to daddy (minus the friend killing him part) but he's just so young. I was 14 weeks pregnant with our second child, our daughter, when he died. I am so thankful that I was able to carry her full term with all the stress i was under, and she was born in september 2010, beautiful and healthy, with no clue at all what she is missing not knowing her daddy. It's so sad that he'll never hold her and she'll never know him. I miss him so much every hour of every day, the pain is still so great inside my heart. It will be one year that he's been gone in 2 weeks. My children are my strength, I am so thankful that he gave me these blessings before God called on him. I will never get over him, I've finally realized this, that I will just have to learn to live without him, but I'll never "get over it.:"
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I'm VERY sorry for your loss and I can't imagine how it feels to lose a mate... especially when there is a child. I can try to imagine from where I've been: I lost a dear friend and step-sister to a bullet. I lost a new lover to a bomb. I've never lost a woman that I had committed to. The closest I can come is that I know the people that have.
I know that we cherish grief. We FIGHT against LOSING that intense emotion of grief. I know that if we allow TIME to dull that, then we feel that they become less important. It has taken a LOT of work to be able to feel that that's not true.
For me, I let it go too quickly. I let it go in the name of trying to survive. 20 years later, I dream of a girl named Elzbeta. ;) I wake up with nightmares.
Let your grief take its course, but when you find the time to do it, let it go.
In Judaism, there's a tradition that touches me: You find a smooth, river-worn stone. A pebble. When you visit the grave, you already HAVE it in your pocket and have been feeling it, there. You lay the pebble on the grave, when you visit.
I promise that THAT act is very calming and, for some reason, has a meaning, though there IS no meaning. There never will be. It becomes... a way to keep it alive WITHOUT keeping grief alive.
I'm VERY sorry, but this is ALL I can offer you. It won't make you feel better. It just allows you to shift the grief into a pebble and LIVE. -
I am sorry for your loss but please try to be happy.. Huggs
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