Lossing My Soul Mate

I am a widow. My husband went to be with my lord aug 30th,2009 He was my soul mate my best friend. I have done well up till the last few days but lately all I do is cry. My husband was a 54 year old healthy man he had a stoke on thursday and died on sunday.I know the lord decided he needed him more than I and I know he is happer than he ever could be here, so why am I crying so much.

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56-60, F
12 Responses Oct 6, 2009

You will always feel the sorrow but you will always have the memories of the good times. Cherish those every day and be thankful for the time you spent together.

Thank you it is what I have done and very thankful for all the time and the memories.

I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my only daughter so I know your pain..

Thank you akindheart been 5 yrs now tolerable is were we get to I am so sorry for your loss so sorry hugs.

Thank you SoutherenPlains there are no effective words but to know you felt it makes my attempt at words well worth it. Thank you

Thank you kelly816, Prayer are always welcome mine for you also.

And I, too, am sorry for your loss. It seems so much harder to deal with death when it is unexpected. As you read in my story, it has been 2 years, and I am still dealing with death. My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you. Just know that he is in a wonderful place, and you will be reunited with him again. And know that you are not alone in your suffering. We are here with you. If you need to talk, message me. God Bless you and take care.

look in the mirror-look at what he loved-now cry-now look again=this is what you do love yourself like he would wont you to do.Im very proud of you for going to that church you never go home alone God is with you. Find you one,one, good person in that church and tell them everthing if you can it will help. It took me 2 yrs as you kknow to tell. Love to you my friend rw God Bless

I am sorry for your loss and hope that thing's get better for you soon,

My husband is still here on this earth with me, yet I know how deeply the pain of loss is of someone who was your soul mate and best friend.<br />
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Time and God are the answer yet of the two many times it seems time is an enamy.<br />
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All that can be done is to keep your eyes on God and pull your strengh from him. Allow him to carry you through this. It will not be any easier but you will not be alone.

My heart goes out to you as you join us on this nightmare journey, it's been 3 long years since I lost my soulmate and best friend in an accident. I can't tell you that time heals because it does'nt I miss my man as much today as I did the day after it happened, but I will tell you that with time the intensity of the hurt will ease (I did't believe it would either) you are in shock right now and are surrounded by a fog of numbness. <br />
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The only advice I can give you is to lean on those around you that love you be kind to yourself and don't be to hard on yourself when you fall apart cause it will happen. I still get hit by the waves that come out of nowhere knock me off my feet then disapear. Let them come and ride them out tring to fight and ignore them will make things worse.<br />
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I like the others are here if you need someone.<br />
((((((((((((hugs to you and your family)))))))))))))) take care SG

My heart truly, sincerely goes out to you. I'm so very sorry for your loss.<br />
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I was also forced to become a Widow on November 24, 2004, when the doctor who was suppose to save my Husband's life, deliberately killed him.<br />
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My Husband was and still is my entire life. We have two beautiful adult daughters and a grandson and granddaughter that are so very priceless and precious to me. But my Husband completes me and I'm desperate to find the way to be able to still be with him, like so many other's are with their loved ones.<br />
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I wish you calm, serenity, patience, understanding, love, kindness and care.<br />
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Please write to me anytime. I'm here for you.<br />
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Angel Blessings,<br />
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Oh, sweet sister...it will take a long time to get to the point where you can deal with your grief. It's been 4 yrs since I lost my husband/best friend. The first year was numb. Crying all the time. Let your faith in Christ carry you! Cast all your cares on Him, He cares for you. <br />
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May the peace that surpasses all understanding cover you and God bless you! <br />
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You never "get over it" but with the strength from our Lord you cah get through it. <br />
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I am so sorry for your loss. Empathy abounds!

It is perfectly normal to be crying all the time, you are still in the shock stage where grief comes in waves, take the time to be kind to yourself and cry when you need to but try hard to enjoy the good times with friends and family - try not to get too caught up in yourself - i found it useful to do things for others to take the spotlight off myself in my mind<br />
look after yourself, your grief is still so fresh dont be too hard on yourself