I Lost My Husband Last February

It was a cold February afternoon, and i was helping my husband work on this car he bought. he had to get the motor out of it and i was handing him tools a real help. so there was a part that needed to be taken off under the car and he jerked on it too hard and the car fell on him the bottle cap jack just gave way he didn't have the proper equipment and he died shortly at the hospital he was only 24 at the time and he left behind a 10 month old child . that moment haunts me everyday i have panic attacks now and i can't seem to calm down i never want to be alone  and i don't want to be home either. i don't know what to do i have been going to church and praying i just feel so alone all the time. and i guess i hoped by finding others it would help somehow.

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22-25, F
15 Responses Feb 15, 2010

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

1st thing dear where are you from, i m from mumbai, if you are from mumbai, plz e-mail me lalashama@gmail.com i will definetly make you my campenion bcz i need true honest campenion, i have my own perfume business..!

nehagoel, no I never married again. One reason was my husband was flying his plane and crashed into the ocean, they never found his body or his plane, I was so unsure or I wanted to believe well I had hope it was all a mistake. For the ext 10 yrs. I did not move or change my phone number and I did not box up his things. After that I dated I have had very serious relationships but I was never compelled to give that kind of dedication again.

i was just shoked at such young age you cam across such a big pain...this was ur age to enjoy life with each other fullest...well anyways i will only say that "START A NEW LIFE"

Thanks Mollydd,<br />
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So, you didn't get married again?? Where are you locateD???

they say time will heal, but it doesn't, it calms down a little but you never get over it . i was 24 when my husband died. that was 35 years ago, i can still feel his arms around me, i still smile when i think of certain things we share d. he was my life, my greatest love, my everything. you have a daughter, his daughter, who needs you, children are very perceptive and sense your sadness and pain, you can't allow her to grow up thinking she is the cause of your grief. she will need your laugh and smile to make her life good, i feel for you, i do know how difficult it is, your daughter needs your strength. i am going to keep you both in my prayers, if you need to talk or if you need anything i am happy to help in anyway i can

Hi,<br />
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Same unfortunate incident happened to me as well on 1march 2010. Me and my husband had a love marriage. We were so happy. In india, holi is celebrated as fesvital of colors. My own parents and in laws home is in same city. He was going to my home for playing colors. His friend was riding bike. Suddenly, bike lost balanced and my husband collapsed at the moment. His friend is perfectly fine. I am just 25 and don't know what to do now. Fortunately, I work and have stared coming to office. But pain always becomes less after sharing.

My prayers are with you.<br />
stemple

You are very young and so was your Husband and the way he died was horrible. My heart goes out to you. I know some of what you're going through and if you need to talk, please feel free to write to me anytime. It's been 5 years, 2months and 21 days since my Husband was deliberately killed by the doctor who was suppose to save his life. I'm still having trouble calming down. I still have panic attacks and I still need him more every second of every day. The lonliness is overwhelming and the totally lost feeling is even worse most of the time. Going to church and praying is probably a really good thing. I'm sure God will give you strength. I do hope that finding the widows on EP will help you at least a little bit.<br />
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I wish you the best of everything in life and comfort for your pain.<br />
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Angel Blessings, Always my new friend.

You are so young. I knwo how it feels to have the panic attacks, to feel all alone. I also know hwo it feels to nto eb able to calm down. The loneliness is overwhelming. Please know though I am 50, my husband was 40, and we were married for 15 years. He suddenly abruptly died on Dec. 27, 2009 from a tragic accident while saving his 20 yr old son from drowning. I am here, I care. As outlawson posted One day at a time, cling to that, even one moment at a time.

Yes, you are too young to be a widow, but we never have opportunity to choose what happens. Life is so unpredictable and one never knows what it may bring. It takes time, one day at a time and try to see the positive in life as you are still here. Hang-in-there baby.