My Husband Is In The Philippines Visiting His Girlfriend

He met her online.  This is the second week-long trip he's made out there since January.  He left me about a year and a half ago.  We should be finalizing our divorce in the next few months.  He still lives in the same town and spends time every week with our older teenage boys.  It's weird.  I've been happier since he left.  Anyway, I'm not supposed to know about his girlfriend.  He told our sons and said to keep it a secret from me.  But they told me.  The only thing I'm upset about is him telling our boys to keep secrets from me.  I'm not sure what to say to him when I see him again.

I've told everyone we know about his girlfriend (no one seemed to know about it).  That'll probably give us something to talk about.
dsrtflwr dsrtflwr
46-50, F
2 Responses Aug 10, 2010

If its any comfort to you he will soon "tire" of his new sweet, young , thing........they ALWAYS do, and he will be back to his old sexless self sooner than you would imagine. This is just a way for him to prove to himself that he is still "the man". It is just a diversion that will convince him that he is not the problem, you were, but we know the truth now don't we??? These guys are so predictable that it is a joke, always trying to prop themselves up with a new female. Its laughable. Soon his little honey will be saying "why does my new man not want to make love to me?"

Good riddance to bad rubbish. AND he could ONLY managed to come up with a girl in the Philippines?????? (OK this is just an ego booster for you!)<br />
The big thing here is asking sons to keep secrets from you. My suggestion, praise your sons for telling you the truth but respect them by not bringing it up with your ex. You will then still have a close bond with your boys who'll realise that whatever it is, they can share with you.<br />
Good luck and don't waste time on his life! Focus on yours!