At A Loss!OK so im not going to be short on this, I need help and dont know what to do! This is also not very neat! I just rambled on.
My husband and I have been together for 3 years now! In the beginning sex was amazing, started out twice a day, then it turned into great sex twice a week, then great sex once a week, then once every two week. Now it like when we do have sex its for 5 seconds and done. He use to be so passionate, making me feel like he wanted me, loved me, cherished every part of my body. Now i feel as iif he does have sex with me its to shut me up. It hurts i feel like im not attractive. I love him unconditionally, but its getting hard to handle when you feel unwanted. When i ask to make love, he says why dont you just want to cuddle with me. Well i do but sometimes, alot of the times, it would be nice to get more. He told me from the beginning he wasnt crazy about sex. To him sex wasnt nothing major, he never wanted it much. To me making love is a way of showing our love, affection, intimacy, and attractiveness to each other. He tells me hes inlove with me all the time, hes says im the only one for him. It just feels like its not true, when i never get affection. He use to kiss me so intimate to, then it turned to a peck. Im so attracted to him, but it gets hard when i get turned down on a daily basis. WHat do i do? I never use to think of any other guy, never use to dream about any other guy. Lately i have been finding myself dreaming about others, they all look like my husband but i can tell they are not. If you make sense of that. I even tried the sexy lingerie, not a turn on! Tried taking sexy pictures of myself, not a turn on! Ive done so much and cant seem to turn his head. I dress up for him, and he says why do you dress up i like you in jeans and a hoodie. You cant feel to sexy in jeans and a hoddie. Its bad that when i get attention from other guys it makes me feel beautiful, but anymore my own husband cant make me feel beautiful. Im so inlove with and he says hes so inlove with me, but i dont know how to deal with this. He wont go to a counselor, and it hurts! Im afraid our relationships is going to go downhill. I use to love going to bed with him but anymore i find myself trying to fall asleep before him or staying up after him in the living room. He loves to tease me but not go any farther, thats what really hurts, like he dont care, he dont understand. I think ive rambled on enough!!!Thanks for your time,