3 Years Without Intimacy
My husband and I have been married 5 years. I am 10 years older. Our sex life in the beginning was great. He was deployed 10 weeks after we were married. When he returned home our son was born. While he was gone he says he was faithful and only mas*****ted. Then the problems began with our sex life. The times became fewer and farther between. Sometimes several months at a time. I would initiate only to be turned down, stating " i'm tired." It has been 3 years now. I try to talk about our situation and he doesn't want to discuss it. I have been sleeping in the guest bedroom because I couldn't stand to be in the same bed with him. Don't get me wrong, I love this man dearly. He is a wonderful husband and father in all the other ways. I found out that while he was and is deployed that the mas***bating was the only way that he could get relief. Now that is the only thing he is interested in doing. We have been to counselors to no avail. I have been told that this is a sexual addiction. He can determine the intensity of the mas***bation along with fantasy. We have been working on our marriage while he has been away this time. He is really trying and giving me lots of attention. He came home on leave and I initiated only to be turned down again. He said " I'm sorry I was just not thinking about that at all" I turned over and died once again. I want the closeness again but I don't think it will ever happen.