I fake to get along with my husband .....
I would try to talk to him about why there is no sex in our marriage ...
I complained constantly, about his lack of envolment, why he wont do anything with me, or go anywhere with me ...
For 2 years I tried, but he is happy to sit in his chair all day and watch TV and troll on the computer. ( at one point he had an on line affair )
that has been his life for 3 and half years now.
he sits all day and watches TV.... trolls on p/c .....then off to bed ..
he might as well place him self into a home for bed ridden people, cause he acts just like one ....
he is 63 but acts and talks like he is older ( he is beginning to look older then he is, do to lack of exercising)
point is ........I pretend to love him, I pretend to care, I pretend to be happy, I pretend to be ok with our sexless marriage, to keep the relationship civil... until i can get the hell out of dodge..
before i started pretending, we were at in each others face yelling, hollering, avoiding each other, not talking. id make snide remarks about his man hood, how he isnt being the man he should be.....
now that i have dropped all the complaints and act like im ok with every thing, things are pleasant....
I look at him as a stepping stone, till things allow me to move forward, towards a life i really want. iv left him to his life of sitting there watching TV and trolling on the p/c .
update 1/6/13. he had an heart attack...... had stents put in... he smoked for 40 years and him doing nothing but sitting, watching TV, trolling on p/c will give you a death certificate.
2/ 14/ 2013 I moved to the guest bed room to sleep permanently. UPDATE 10/ 10/ 2013 found out he is still playing around with this online girl/f. his health, he has good days, bad days he stopped telling me he loves me about 3 months ago.. it probably because I don't sleep with him anymore.
update yaaaaaaaaaaa 1/2/ 2014
I got a job!!! I will be working out of town a lot, so i wont be home much!!!!! im escaping!!! of course he is acting like, oh well just another day!!! yea right!!! he was no happy about me getting a jov! he could not find it in himself to feel happy for me!!
he is about to lose his house and everything else and all he can do is is act like its just another day!!!
I asked him ....... are you alive???!! because it looks as though you have flat lined!!!! lmffo hahahahahha
he is sulking, acting as if he is half dead, he has been acting like that for a year now!!
he acts like he is still in recovery from his heart attack he had dec 2012 when he should be acting like he has recovered.
but ya know what??? that is his problem!!!! i have my job now, and it pays well enough for me to go on with my life!!!yaaaaaaa