My Husband Has No Sex Drive!
Our marriage is not completely sexless, but it bothers me to not be wanted. While my husband occasionally consents to sex, he has told me that he has no desire for it. He never masturbates, and never looks at ****, and if I change in the same room as him, he doesn't even turn his head! There is no sexual desire present, as far as I can see. It's like I'm invisible. It's like he has no sexual needs. You might ask why it's a problem that he has no desire if he consents to sex anyways, but there's no spark, no connection, and that takes away the enjoyment for me. I want him to want me if that makes sense. I don't understand how any guy can have absolutely no sexual desire, especially at such a young age! (I'm 19, he's 20.) He mostly just plays video games. He doesn't have ED or anything, in fact, he's quite proficient in bed when he actually consents to it. But he never initiates anything, never asks me to have sex. And why is that a problem, you might ask. Because I want the feeling of being wanted. I want him to initiate hugs, and kisses, for him to look at me and be aroused. I'm not unattractive, I'm 5'8", 150 pounds, long legs, and 34 DD chest. I think I'm actually kind of pretty. Not model-worthy, granted, but I'm not ugly. Am I crazy to think that a 20 year old male who doesn't have any sexual desire at all is not normal? He won't go to the doctor, or a sex therapist. I don't know what to do! I love him so much, and I want sex to be something beautiful and passionate shared between a husband and wife, but all he thinks is that sex is gross. I have no clue what to do next... Someone please help me! What can i do to get some intimacy in our relationship? I love him so much, and I want to be wanted by him. I like sex, and it's torture when I only get it maybe once every two months. I need to know a few things. Is there anyone else out there with the same problem? Not with their husband having a LOW sex drive, but NO sex drive. Especially at such a young age! What can I do? He says he's never had an interest in sex. I know for a fact that he's not gay, that he has no std's, and that he NEVER masturbates. He thinks ************ is wrong, and he also NEVER looks at ****. I'm sick of the lack of intimacy. There's also very little affection, he never initiates comforting words, hugs, kisses, any of that. He doesn't like to be touched at all. Help me please!