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How do I go to bed with my husband without thinking about him breaking my arm?

If I go to bed with him and he hurts me and seventeen years is too long of a time to still put up with it the same ways and I promised him I will hurt him for the eye to see and all to remember if or when we have sex and he hurts me again, what do I do?

I don't like violence. Not even when it's denied, lied about, given excuses for, apologized for, not noticed or anything else.

Is there a way for me to have sex with him again, and not be concerned about violence, yet still be awake and alive?

I've been asking him for counseling since we met and he would not let me go and kept giving me excuses.

Is there a sex therapist he could trust so my husband and I can have sex and maybe the therapist could watch so my husband doesn't forget while we're having sex? Maybe on Skype or some other cam?

Thanks.

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Jan 16, 2013