How to Have a Baby In a Sexless Marriage?
All of your stories have given me the courage to tell my own.... I hope you will be kind enough to help me if you can...
I am 30, my husband is 36 and we will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary in 2 weeks. We are both excited about starting a family and we talk about our future children frequently but he has no interest in actually MAKING these hypothetical kids. I have been off birth control for 2 years and the last time we had sex was 2 months ago.
He is so great about taking care of everything else in our lives (he cooks, cleans, laundry!) but without sex I feel like he isn't taking care of me. I truly love my husband and I know that he loves me, but I cannot live like this! In previous relationships, I have never encountered a hyposexual partner, and I'm not sure what to do. I would prefer to have DAILY sex (can you imagine how GREAT that would be?!), but we average maybe 1-2 times per month. I have suggested counseling for us, but he is resistant.
So what should I do? Is it me? Is there anything I can do to make this better? I guess I really have two issues, the desire for intimacy with the man I love and the desire to have a baby. But, sadly these are both related issues which I have no control over. (or do I and I just can't see the answer?)
I miss feeling desired/beautiful/sexy and I want a baby... what should I do?